Looking for some advice

[Stressedout1]

I have court next week to try and get a modification to move out of the state. It is about an 8hr drive. My daughter is 11 years old and visits with her grandma Saturday into Sunday on most weekends.
My daughters father lives with his mother but doesn't take the initiative to spend time with my daughter. I am wondering do I have a chance to get the modification to move? I have a better job lined up for me down there and my fiancé does too. It won't be till the end of October. Will I have an answer by then?
I am willing to give all the visitation I can, including paying for all travel expenses. I do want my daughter involved with her father, but it seems like the grandmother is taking all of his visitation and I have no say in that because he doesn't say anything to me. He really doesn't seems like he cares because he has never been involved in her school life, her sports, her doctors appts, nothing, and he has never asked me anything about her ever except that he doesn't like it when I straighten her hair..wth..
So what can I do to get this approved because I need this job as it will be such an increase in pay and the cost of living will be cheaper too!

 

[army judge]

No one can say what a court will do. Just prepare the best case you can. Present the facts, just the facts, and who knows?

Remember, nothing but the facts, no opinions or emotions.

 

[Proserpina]

So she's at Dad's every weekend? (albeit at Grandma's house where Dad lives, correct?)

What kind of visitation plan are you going to offer Dad?

 

[Stressedout1]

Yes, my daughters father lives with his mom. I am willing to give him visitation one weekend a month, extended spring, winter, and summer months, and holidays. I am also willing to pay for all travel expenses and if there are 3 day weekends I am willing to send her for them too. I am not trying to take her away whatsoever. I just want a better life for us. I have a new job opportunity and will be able to visit my parents once a month instead of once every year or every two years because it will be driving distance.

 

[Proserpina]

Have you actually been offered the job?

Your ability to visit your parents will have no bearing.

What will have impact is that your ex is going to go from seeing his daughter every weekend, to once a month.

Honestly, if you want this to happen, I think you should hire an attorney because Dad has a good chance of being able to block the relocation of the child.

Is it feasible to allow Dad to be the CP and you be the NCP?

 

[Stressedout1]

Yes, my old boss the chief officer of the company offered me the job, but I told him my situation and he is willing to wait.
Even if he has never spent quality time with my daughter for 9 years of her life? Its sad to say this, but he really doesn't know my daughter and I have made numerous attempts to let him be a dad. he doesn't want to take full responsibility, thats why I am asking for sole custody too....I might also add that he isnt always there when my daughter visits her grandma, he is off doing his own thing.
I would never give him custody of my daughter...I would have to die before I let that happen. First he isn't responsible an example was that i went in for a emergency hospital visit and I called him to see if he could get her at school and he told me "no
because he was doing something else. I think your children should come first no matter what and he has done this more than once. They also live in the worst school district. We both live in different counties. They live on the street where there are drug dealers and shootings. I could never let my daughter live there. I don't even like her going there, but I have no say in that because I know they have their right.

 

[Stressedout1]

I might add that the court order now says visitation is every other weekend and 2 consecutive days out of the week in which the 2 days out of the week have never been used since the order has been placed.

 

[army judge]

I might add that the court order now says visitation is every other weekend and 2 consecutive days out of the week in which the 2 days out of the week have never been used since the order has been placed.

These are things you need to bring to the court's attention. I also hope you have a lawyer, because you are too close to this to tell it without emotion.

Whatever this bum is today, he was the same deadbeat bum when you chose him to make baby that with you. So, if you had chosen more wisely, you wouldn't be living this nightmare today. Neither would that precious baby have a deadbeat bum for a daddy. You have no one to blame for all of this but you and that deadbeat bum!!!!