My mother-in-law passed away in Nashville in September. She was cremated. We are in Colorado. We have been talking with her caregiver about getting her ashes so we can bury her in Wyoming with her parents in a plot that she has had since she was born. We had agreed to split the ashes with her caregiver. Now, the caregiver's family wants to split her ashes amongst themselves and give us a 'portion'. Can we just pick up her ashes?
Please accept my sympathies upon your mother's recent passing.
May God comfort your family during this difficult time.
Yes, you could just go retrieve mother's remains.
I hope you know that cremations aren't done in solitary.
When human remains are cremated, they are done in bulk.
Therefore, mother's ashes aren't mother's ashes alone.
They are a combination of all the other dearly departed that were cremated on that day.
What the caregiver is doing is improper.
But, the caregiver must have loved mother, too.
The caregiver's family loved mother, too.
Wouldn't it be easier to allow all who loved your dear mother to keep her close to them, too?
But, the choice is yours.
May God give your family comfort and peace!
