Moving Law-want to move out of state

[rachelt2469]

I am wondering how to find out if I can move to a different state? I have had my daughter living me with her entire life. Her father and i never were married, not has he ever had custody of her. She does go to his house every other weekend, we came up with that agreement on our own when she was 3 years old. She is now 14 years old. He does pay child support but also does have an arreers tab. We want to move closer to my husbands family and enjoy the side of another family. We really miss them, can you tell me is it legal for me to move or what do I need to do to be able to do so?

Thank you.

 

[Proserpina]

How far are you wanting to relocate?

Are you willing to pay for all transportation to and from Dad's house?

And offer a very generous parenting plan in which you'd likely lose ALL of summer?

 

[army judge]

What you desire OP is going to take time to achieve, assuming you can jump the flaming hoops to get there.

It is also going to be expensive, very expensive.

If it were my decision, I'd wait a few more years.

Why?

Well, because your baby will be an adult in a liitle over three years.

Then you, nor will she, require the court's permission to do a darn thing!!

 

[rachelt2469]

Well we have been looking at it for SEVERAL years. We got a great opportunity for housing thrown at us that is why we are really considering it now. I would definitely pay for my daughter to travel during the summer to see her father, no argument there at all. I just want to know if it is LEGAL for me to go or not? She is on board and does want to move as well so this is nothing that I am forcing her to do. I am just trying to keep things civil, because that is how I am and I have always been.

 

[jacksgal]

this isnt about what she (the child) wants. Its about wha tis fair to all parties. bu taking the child away from other parent you impact Dad visitation with child. Dad can contest this if he so chooses. If you want this to remain civil then you will likely need to concede more visitation time and pay travel expenses. If your prepared to do that discuss this with Dad and form an agreement

 

[army judge]

I'm happy to know that you are such a principled and moral person.

Therefore, you desire to do the right thing.

So, all you have to is take the matter to court and agree to pay all expenses associated with your move.

You want to make sure that your desires won't cost the bio-dad anything. You're happy to pay the child's airfare for her visits. You'll also agree to the child spending at least two-thirds of her summer vacation with dad.

Most folks agree to alternating Christmas vacations, too.

Well we have been looking at it for SEVERAL years. We got a great opportunity for housing thrown at us that is why we are really considering it now. I would definitely pay for my daughter to travel during the summer to see her father, no argument there at all. I just want to know if it is LEGAL for me to go or not? She is on board and does want to move as well so this is nothing that I am forcing her to do. I am just trying to keep things civil, because that is how I am and I have always been.

 

[Proserpina]

Unlike many relocation threads, the OP here stands a better chance than most. MN tends to sway in favor of the relocating parent, the child is old enough to express her preference AND Mom is willing to pay for visitation costs.

However Mom needs to do it legally. Mom should not just up and leave - she should notify Dad and/or the court per State requirements and do it right beforehand.