my boyfriends psychotic ex

[rdiane]

My boyfriend has a 6 yr old son, and has a restraining order against the mother. It states limited contact is allowed ABOUT the child. Even so he was allowing her to have him overnight every other weekend and every tuesday and talk on the phone daily. Until recently when she tried to kill herself with him there. He decided to no longer let him go over there and to let her get better, but she could still talk to him daily. She didnt like that and started harrassing him and me. He went to the court to get the restraining order edited to NO CONTACT. He still hasnt recieved anything yet as a response in the mail. Yesterday as I am picking up the child from church to take him to his father she snatches him and runs. I had to chase her around she wouldnt just talk to me. Turns out she came with a cop. Who I could not find. She started screaming a centimeter in my face which started a physical altercation. Its just alot of drama. Shes also on Felony probation (not sure if that matters). Is their any kind of guidance anybody can give as to the steps to take to help this stop.

p.s (yes I know he's not my child, and this shouldnt be any of my business. I wish it were that easy but its not..so keep those comments to yourself please. Im just trying to help)

 

[army judge]

My boyfriend has a 6 yr old son, and has a restraining order against the mother. It states limited contact is allowed ABOUT the child.

He went to the court to get the restraining order edited to NO CONTACT.
He still hasnt recieved anything yet as a response in the mail.


Yesterday as I am picking up the child from church to take him to his father she snatches him and runs.
I had to chase her around she wouldnt just talk to me.
Turns out she came with a cop. Who I could not find. She started screaming a centimeter in my face which started a physical altercation. Its just alot of drama. Shes also on Felony probation (not sure if that matters). Is their any kind of guidance anybody can give as to the steps to take to help this stop.

p.s (yes I know he's not my child, and this shouldnt be any of my business. I wish it were that easy but its not..so keep those comments to yourself please. Im just trying to help)

Legally you have no say in any of this.

Even IF he sends you to collect the child, she's the mother.

Now, if HE had been with you, things would have been different.

He has LEGAL custody, and he's the LEGAL father.

You could get sued by this psycho. Yes, you want to help, but you could end up needing help.

In fact, as you have no LEGAL authority to possess THEIR child, you could find yourself being charged with some ridiculous crime.

Or, she might bring a restraining order against you.

Most people don't need or want that type of drama in their lives.


Its your life, so do whatever you believe must be done.



Even if he gets a restraining order, do you think a psycho will let that stop her?



You might have HIM talk to her probation officer about her behavior.

If she confronts you again, I suggest you IMMEDIATELY call "911".

She might be carrying a gun, a hatchet, a meat cleaver, or even a bomb.

Its best to avoid confronting people these days, unless you have a death wish, or enjoy long hospital stays.

 

[Unregistered]

Geez I'm not assuming any legality over this I'm asking advice for him to do...call the probation officer ...got it. Anything else?

 

[rdiane]

Gotcha...anything else besides call the probation officer, and yea we've decided that I shouldn't be transporting him anymore.

 

[army judge]

Gotcha...anything else besides call the probation officer, and yea we've decided that I shouldn't be transporting him anymore.

Start with having HIM contact the probation officer.

After that, both of you could seek NO CONTACT orders against her.

He should then try to see if he can convince a court to order that SHE be given supervised visitations and ordered to go to anger management classes.

To pursue that, he will need to hire a lawyer.

But, most will discuss the issue with HIM for FREE during the 1st visit.

 

[rdiane]

HaHa Thank you. I will give HIM this information so maybe HE can use it..

 

[army judge]

HaHa Thank you. I will give HIM this information so maybe HE can use it..

Now you're being one smart cookie.

You can love someone, but know that some people will use you.

That said, always protect yourself, before you get hurt trying to protect others.

A husband or wife is different, but a boyfriend or a girlfriend is much different.

Just be cautious.

Its HIS kid, let HIM take care of it.

Moms and dads must care for their little crumb crushers and rugrats for free, but baby sitters get paid, as do nannies.