My daughters abuser

[mklobue]

My daughter(30) is living with a boyfriend who is abusing her. She has left him several times only to return. She has 2 children, 8 & 2 who are caught up in this. She now wants out completely, he has tried to strangle her and this time the kids saw it and are scared. She wants me to come pick them up when he is not there, but he now knows where we live. She is also pregnant with his child. The man is crazy, he will come around and I'm afraid for my family. I don't want to have to shoot this guy, he is very big and I'm 55 years old. Please, what can I do?

 

[Duranie]

Your daughter needs to call the police if he threatens her again, and file a RO. How sad that she is pregnant again by him though. I would pick them up, and file an RO immed. You can go down to the court house and file a restraining order. If you do nothing, this will continue.

Has your daughter called the police on him before at all? Is there any record of his past violence?

 

[mklobue]

Do I file the RO in my county or his?

 

[Duranie]

Daughter needs to file one since she is the one that has been abused and threatened. So it would need to be her county i think. she should call the police and see if they can point her in the right direction.
Your daughter should also talk to an attorney for custody/child support.

 

[Duranie]

She also might want to contact a womens shelter/domestic violence hotline. They can give her some advice. She also might want to contact legal aid to see if they can help.

 

[mklobue]

I really appreciate all the advice, I really do, you have been a wealth of support. She is in the home with him and he has the only phone. I have no way of getting to her. I have the name of a local Womens Shelter and I will get it to her, but in the mean time is there anything I can do now? I'm afraid that if I call any kind of authority while he is there he will retaliate on them. There has to be something we can do soon.

And Thanks again,

 

[Duranie]

Can't she go to a neighbors house and use the phone?

Find out when boyfriend is going to work, and go pick her up. You might call the police in her city to see if they can escort you.

In the meantime you can look up some domestic violence numbers/shelters an start calling around. They should be able to give you some advice. Your daughter needs out of the dangerous situation. I would be going to court after that and file an RO. She'll need an address to serve him at-either at work or at home. If I were you start heading over to her neck of the woods and find a time when it is clear to go get her.