You may think hostage is a strong term, but it true. I've been divorce over 4 yrs. The ex gets visitation, yet he plays this sick game of either not showing up to pick the kids up or he doesn't show to drop them off.
Its this sick game he plays and I have fought and fought this in the court system. They hold him in contempt but all he gets is a slap on the hand.
My attorney advised me to make a visitation schedule and provide him and the court with copies- I did. He ignores the paper. He shows whenever- the kids are 7,8 and dont want to see him and beg and cry not to go. Since July, visitation has only gotten worse.
He is suppose to return the kids to me today at 12pm in Lexington. He says he will not be there and that if I want them back I have to come to him in Casey county. He read the papers wrong and drove to Lexington yesterday at 12pm to return them- he's fault, not mine. The kids and I live 1 1/2 hrs North of Lexington and he lives 1 1/2 hrs South. If I could have been there in minutes and he would wait- i would have gotten them in a heartbeat- but thats the thing, he knew I wouldnt be there and he wasnt planning on waiting.
He did this last year. Always a holiday weekend and the police never seem to help me out- they always call him up- and it becomes "he said she said". Then they say let the courts handle it- in the meantime, what about my kids?
He wants me to go to Casey county to cost me more in gas, to control me by using the kids and its a small town, Police there are "his friends" and will not protect me- years ago he choked me in front of a police officer and nothing was done about it- the officer didnt help me, they wouldnt even give me an EPO, so me and the kids got permission to leave that county. I fear for my life whenever I have to go down there for court- I asked for a change of venue and the Judge denied it, saying that the ex lives 10 min away- its my case! Everytime I go, its to hold him in contempt for something he did or did not do, my atty has explained to the court that its my case, that Im being punished everytime I have to come down because I loose a day of work, and have to drive 6 hrs RT- I always get awarded atty fees- but I still have to pay her and he still has never reimbursed ($2000 currently).
What can I do? When will the legal system stop allowing him to abuse me and the kids?
Its this sick game he plays and I have fought and fought this in the court system. They hold him in contempt but all he gets is a slap on the hand.
My attorney advised me to make a visitation schedule and provide him and the court with copies- I did. He ignores the paper. He shows whenever- the kids are 7,8 and dont want to see him and beg and cry not to go. Since July, visitation has only gotten worse.
He is suppose to return the kids to me today at 12pm in Lexington. He says he will not be there and that if I want them back I have to come to him in Casey county. He read the papers wrong and drove to Lexington yesterday at 12pm to return them- he's fault, not mine. The kids and I live 1 1/2 hrs North of Lexington and he lives 1 1/2 hrs South. If I could have been there in minutes and he would wait- i would have gotten them in a heartbeat- but thats the thing, he knew I wouldnt be there and he wasnt planning on waiting.
He did this last year. Always a holiday weekend and the police never seem to help me out- they always call him up- and it becomes "he said she said". Then they say let the courts handle it- in the meantime, what about my kids?
He wants me to go to Casey county to cost me more in gas, to control me by using the kids and its a small town, Police there are "his friends" and will not protect me- years ago he choked me in front of a police officer and nothing was done about it- the officer didnt help me, they wouldnt even give me an EPO, so me and the kids got permission to leave that county. I fear for my life whenever I have to go down there for court- I asked for a change of venue and the Judge denied it, saying that the ex lives 10 min away- its my case! Everytime I go, its to hold him in contempt for something he did or did not do, my atty has explained to the court that its my case, that Im being punished everytime I have to come down because I loose a day of work, and have to drive 6 hrs RT- I always get awarded atty fees- but I still have to pay her and he still has never reimbursed ($2000 currently).
What can I do? When will the legal system stop allowing him to abuse me and the kids?
