My Ex wants visitation rights after 6 months

[WGarcia121]

My Kid's father has not seen her in over 6 months and until now he is requesting the court to give him joint custody, I don't want him to have any part of her life, he has no job, he is morbidly obese, doesn't even try to take care of himself, he smokes narcotics and he has tried to have his girlfriends see my kid. I just want him to leave us alone i dont even want child support, what should i do?

 

[jacksgal]

He was ok to have sex with and make a child but now not fit to see child? No matter what you want unless you can "prove" he poses a threat to child he will be granted some form of visitation

 

[BayState]

what should i do?

Go back in time till the spot you chose to have sex with this fat, lazy man and ...NOT DO IT.

 

[Proserpina]

My Kid's father has not seen her in over 6 months and until now he is requesting the court to give him joint custody, I don't want him to have any part of her life, he has no job, he is morbidly obese, doesn't even try to take care of himself, he smokes narcotics and he has tried to have his girlfriends see my kid. I just want him to leave us alone i dont even want child support, what should i do?

Be prepared for the following likelihood:

Joint legal custody, with ample visitation. It may be graduated (and perhaps supervised) at first, but not for long. Eventually he'll be able to see his child completely unsupervised overnight, and longer periods (entire weeks) in the summer, during school breaks etc.


Get used to it.

You made a child with you - you're going to be co-parenting with him for a long time to come.

 

[WGarcia121]

No i never said he was ok just to have sex with him, as a matter of fact i was the one trying to work the relationship out, he was the one who had sex with me and after told me he wanted me to move on, 5 days later he has a gf, i would take my kid to his house but i would get harassed because i wouldn't talk to him, and not to mention he was never there at the house when i picked up my kid and my kid reeked of smoke , i am protecting my kid he is 34 he needs to grow up i do too but i am doing what i can for my daughter.

 

[jacksgal]

Your not listening. No court is going to give you what you desire. when you found him accepting to bed you found him acceptable to Father your child and thus bond you two forever

 

[Proserpina]

No i never said he was ok just to have sex with him, as a matter of fact i was the one trying to work the relationship out, he was the one who had sex with me and after told me he wanted me to move on, 5 days later he has a gf, i would take my kid to his house but i would get harassed because i wouldn't talk to him, and not to mention he was never there at the house when i picked up my kid and my kid reeked of smoke , i am protecting my kid he is 34 he needs to grow up i do too but i am doing what i can for my daughter.

Legal reality check time:

You DID tell the world, and the courts, that you thought he was absolutely fine "Daddy" material - you know why? Because you had sex with him. With sex comes the risk of pregnancy (hysterectomy/menopause notwithstanding).

The courts will agree that he's fine Daddy material until and unless you can prove to the court's satisfaction that he is actually unfit.

(And NOTHING you have said here comes even vaguely close to meeting that standard)


You picked 'im - you're stuck with 'im.

Get used to it.

 

[lonelyinny]

you picked him

My Kid's father has not seen her in over 6 months and until now he is requesting the court to give him joint custody, I don't want him to have any part of her life, he has no job, he is morbidly obese, doesn't even try to take care of himself, he smokes narcotics and he has tried to have his girlfriends see my kid. I just want him to leave us alone i dont even want child support, what should i do?

keep your legs closed or be more careful who you choose to have unprotected sex with. youre stuck with him as your child's father untill your child is 18, like it or not

 

[tpajet]

If the child smells like smoke, does this include narcotics smoke? If so, you might get the police involved. They may be able to have your child's clothing examined for the presence of narcotics traces. That could be used to establish that he's not providing a safe environment for the child. However it also means criminal charges for him. Other than that, you may be stuck as has been stated. Also if you do think calling the police might be a good idea, think this through very carefully first.

 

[Proserpina]

If the child smells like smoke, does this include narcotics smoke? If so, you might get the police involved. They may be able to have your child's clothing examined for the presence of narcotics traces. That could be used to establish that he's not providing a safe environment for the child. However it also means criminal charges for him. Other than that, you may be stuck as has been stated. Also if you do think calling the police might be a good idea, think this through very carefully first.

By narcotics you mean pot, right?

Smoking pot isn't going to be a big deal unless a) he's doing it with the child present and b) the child is or has already been endangered directly by Dad's smoking.

Honestly - most courts in most jurisdictions treat it the same way as alcohol.

(IE unless the child is in immediate danger from the activity, they really don't care too much).

Why do you think the police will test the clothing of the child?


Even if they did, how does this prove endangerment?

 

[lonelyinny]

no

No i never said he was ok just to have sex with him, as a matter of fact i was the one trying to work the relationship out, he was the one who had sex with me and after told me he wanted me to move on, 5 days later he has a gf, i would take my kid to his house but i would get harassed because i wouldn't talk to him, and not to mention he was never there at the house when i picked up my kid and my kid reeked of smoke , i am protecting my kid he is 34 he needs to grow up i do too but i am doing what i can for my daughter.

what you should do is make sure you do everything in your power to facilitate a relationship between your daughter and the man you chose to be her father. this other stuff doesnt matter you picked him to father your child, now you need to deal with it because like it or not he has as many rights to her as you do.

 

[Proserpina]

what you should do is make sure you do everything in your power to facilitate a relationship between your daughter and the man you chose to be her father. this other stuff doesnt matter you picked him to father your child, now you need to deal with it because like it or not he has as many rights to her as you do.

No, he doesn't.

Now, do we have to spell out WHY that is?