My legal rights

[GKAbby]

Hello. I truly need your help. My father is very sick and we were told he does not have long to live. He is at home and has told me he wants to stay home and die there. My father is totally bedridden. His second wife, not my mother, is not allowing me to visit freely with him. I have to make an apt. first to go see him and when I do come over she makes it very uncomfortable for me, insults me, gives me a lecture on what to talk to him about and instructs me to only stay 1/2 hour and then walks me out. It's a horrible situation. When I do try to talk to my father she instructs me quite strongly what to talk to him about and not to ask him questions. She insists he does not know what is going on. I on the other hand know he does. He does respond to me. I am beside myself with grief and need to know what my legal rights are as a daughter who just wants to spend the last few days, possibly weeks just being with my dad and holding his hand. He does not have much time left, so can you please help me!

 

[lwpat]

Unfortunately no. Does he have a sizeable estate?

 

[GKAbby]

Yes, he does have a huge estate worth.

 

[lwpat]

It sounds like she is intentionally separating him from his family. You need to immediately start a journal with specific times, dates and her exact words. A hidden tape recorder (assuming it is not illegal in your jurisdiction) may be appropriate.

You will liklely find that he has executed a will leaving everything to her. Her actions are typical of a person afraid you will find out in time to reverse her actions.

Does he have an attorney? Is he coherent? Is he being mistreated in any way?

If he has an attorney and is coherent, you should immediately contact him and get him to accompany you to the home. Remember that he represents your father, not you and cannot discuss anything confidential with you without permission.

 

[GKAbby]

Legal advice

It sounds like she is intentionally separating him from his family. You need to immediately start a journal with specific times, dates and her exact words. A hidden tape recorder (assuming it is not illegal in your jurisdiction) may be appropriate.

You will liklely find that he has executed a will leaving everything to her. Her actions are typical of a person afraid you will find out in time to reverse her actions.

Does he have an attorney? Is he coherent? Is he being mistreated in any way?

If he has an attorney and is coherent, you should immediately contact him and get him to accompany you to the home. Remember that he represents your father, not you and cannot discuss anything confidential with you without permission.

Thank you for your wonderful much needed advice. I will try to do exactly what you have told me. My father has an attorney so I need to contact him without her knowing because we don't know what she is capable of doing, I don't want her to take out her anger on my father. She is very difficult to handle and it is going to be a tremendous challenge but I am going to give it a good try. My father is declining so rapidly and becoming non-responsive I don't know if it can work.She keeps reminding all of us repeatedly "He is being very well taken care of so your effects are not needed, I will let you know if your needed, I've become his care giver now". I can't understand what she means by this, but like they always say, the truth always comes out! So I guess I will find out one day. Thanks again. You have made me understand things a little better, .

 

[lwpat]

I think you probably need to also consult with your own attorney. You are going to need a good one anyway.

 

[doris999s]

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