Need advice about getting Child Adpoted by New Husband..

[dajyzepaf]

My ex hasn't payed child support in 2 yrs and has very little to no contact with son who is special needs.. The Child support order is whats keeping us from getting services our son needs due to the programs count that as income even though it hasnt been paid. Any way how do we go about filing to have new husband become Dad and getting the ex to sign off on it or do we even have to get the ex involved at all since he hasnt had contact with our son in a long time? We know if My New husband can adopt my son we will be able to get these programs needed for him due to the income level.. child support is set at 500 pre-child Daughter is almost 18 and will graduate in May so we are not to worried about her at this time unless she wants step dad to adopt her.. but son is special needs and needs lots of care and support and may not be able to take care of him self later in life and if the ex is not paying the support now I know he will not pay when our son is 18 or older.. We really need advice before looking into starting a case file.. Our son needs this to happen but we dont want to put to much time and money into something and have the ex come in and play the good father role.. what do we need to prove he hasn't paid and hasn't seen the kids.. I have bank accounts to show no deposits and I also have friends and family who can state that he hasn't put in the time to see them, Daughter does have a cell phone which he pays for but he doesnt do the calling she does and most of the time he doesnt even answer or call back he feels she should do all the calling and he should be an adult and take the time to call and or visit.. He is very childish when it comes to the kids, he feels it should be up to them to call and visit and he should just sit back and wait.. anyway I would like my Husband who has been more of a dad to be dad on paper not only for my son but for his Educational Needs and Services.. Please note we are military and travel from state to state .. The divorce took place in TX and I moved with the kids to Ky and now to Ga.. The Ex is now living in WV.. he too is remarried... any advice will help us greatly

 

[army judge]

You should speak with an attorney in Georgia.
An irresponsible, negligent, and neglectful parent can't just sign away his/her parental rights like one does the rights to property.
It is very hard to sign away your parental rights, even when you desire to do so.

I don't know the terms of your Texas divorce and the support/custody order (nor should you share that online).
You need the services of a local attorney.
A local legal aid office MIGHT work with you to accomplish what you desire.

Whatever happens will take time, lots of time.
On average, nationally, if you're successful expect to spend two to three years obtaining your desired result, assuming that it is even possible.

In the interim, you might want to ask the attorney about ENFORCING the existing child support order for your daughter and son!!
In all likelihood, you'll see money flowing from that action LONG before dad is allowed (assuming he is ever allowed) to waive his parental responsibilities.
Why?
Its all about finances.
If dad doesn't pay, the taxpayers are forced to pay.
Its always about MONEY!!!!!!


Please don't answer this question on this forum.
Just think about it, and share the answer with your attorney (if you get one).
Did the Texas judge that granted the divorce and signed the custody/support order grant you permission to take the children to KY, and later to GA?

If you didn't seek permission and obtain same, if you go rattling your "ex=husband's" cage, he could make trouble for you!
Another reason why you require the services of an attorney!
Whatever you do, don't answer the question.
But, the answer might assist you in making a proper decision today!

 

[dajyzepaf]

can I ask why it takes so long if I can prove he hasnt paid child support for either kid and hasnt taken the time to call or write or even see them during his agreed a pond time? If he doesnt want to pay and I cant get him to pay and I cant get the programs for my son to help him what is my next step.. son needs these programs and fast and the child support is whats stopping the process from happening.. 2 yrs of no pay is a long time and lots of money.. is there any other path I can take to ensure that my son gets the services he needs? Is there any Laws that I can stand on to make sure the state pays for his education even though I am not getting the money from the ex? I guess I need more help then I thought. can you give me a Title/Type of Attorney I need to seek out

 

[army judge]

can I ask why it takes so long if I can prove he hasnt paid child support for either kid and hasnt taken the time to call or write or even see them during his agreed a pond time? If he doesnt want to pay and I cant get him to pay and I cant get the programs for my son to help him what is my next step.. son needs these programs and fast and the child support is whats stopping the process from happening.. 2 yrs of no pay is a long time and lots of money.. is there any other path I can take to ensure that my son gets the services he needs? Is there any Laws that I can stand on to make sure the state pays for his education even though I am not getting the money from the ex? I guess I need more help then I thought. can you give me a Title/Type of Attorney I need to seek out

You could start with legal aid in your area.
Or, you might contact a family law attorney or even a general practitioner.
Nothing about the law is instant.
Remember, I gave you averages.
That means it could take less time in YOUR case.
I don't know your facts.
Only your attorney would be familiar with your case.
That is another reason why YOU should speak with a local attorney.