Need help to get mom back and out of nurse home

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My mother broke her hip a few months ago and had a hip bone joint replacement done on her. Before the surgery she had a mild case of Alzheimer's or dementia. Her Dr knew this but I not think he told the surgeon which could of alerted the anesthesiologist to give her something else to make her sleep.

Anyways that just side note.

After the surgery we noticed that her Alzheimer's or dementia had got worse which now I have learned from the net can be cause by an operation with anesthesia

After the surgery she went to a nurse home for therapy to learn to walk but later she developed behavior problem there and they wanted to send mom far away but me and my sis say we will take mom back home with me.


She was here with me for about 3 weeks and she was always calling for me and i was getting stressed so one day when I was talking to my aunt on the phone I told her I feel like the guy from the movie "Throw Momma from the Train" and joked with her that sometimes I feel like snuffing her out with a pillow. (which I would never do) but just trying to express how stress I was feeling.

Anyways one day my sis took mom to the hospital and I did not know my aunt passed along what I told her to my sis. My sis called the old nurse home to see if mom can go back there for therapy but told them what I said. My sis told me that the Lady was going to call the police on me because she had to report it. Then my sis tell me they said if they send mom to Audubon Behavioral Healthcare they will not call.

Mom did not want to go there from the hospital so they got a court order to send her there against her will. So my sister is trying to control this outcome and say they will not allow mom back with me because of what I said.

Side notes: I have an anxiety disorder and a judge made my mom my care taker over my money and we share a place together. Now I will be force to move and have no place to go or anyone to take care of me to go to store because my disorder makes public places hard for me.

I feel that my character has been misrepresented and what I said took out of context and now I am being punished for it and will lose my mom forever in Nurse home.

My questions are:

1. What can I do to get mom back with me and get her free will of rights to choose where she will stay?

2. Could the police take me in or away just for hearsay or something I just said in passing to my aunt as joking?

3. Does my mom have right to a lawyer that will help her get out of nurse home?

Need help please what can me and mom do. I have not told mom yet what is happening and the place she is at now is telling her a lie that she will be home soon.
 
It probably wouldn't hurt to talk to an attorney. Other responders may come along with additional information/other suggestions.
 
Thanks. But I not know how to find the attorney or where to begin to look? It not easy to find when the only money I get is from SSI and cannot hire a big time lawyer.. Unless there is such a thing as a lawyer that will see mom for free because she is a senior citizen and help her get her rights back. Even if she not come back to live with me that will be OK as long as she has the rights to live where she wants.
 
If your mother has mental health or medical problems, she would probably be better off in a licensed care facility.
As she is in such a facility, and you have medical difficulties, too (SSI), why not leave her where she is?
As far as any comment you may have made, simply say, "I don't have any idea what you're talking about."
Then say nothing more.

If the police or adult protective services come calling, simply say, the following: "I wish to avail myself of my RIGHT to remain silent. Therefore, I regret to inform you, I do not wish to speak to you about anything. I also wish to contact an attorney, thank you."

They might try to trick or cajole you into speaking, if they do, say this: "Sorry, I have invoked."

Then say nothing more, and ask them to leave.

Always be polite, courteous, and never threatening.

In the future, just keep your mouth shut, and don't make jokes about inappropriate or touchy subjects.

Most people don't find them funny.
 
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