kathyerine
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Hello, this is concerning my granddaughter. My son and his ex were never married and live in two separate households. My granddaughter was in a gifted class at one time in fourth grade when my son had sole custody. Now she is 12. She has run away about four or five times that I know of. She might have been with an older boy those times. She is skipping school. She might be into drugs. She is a very beautiful girl. She is a follower. My son wanted to put her into a therapy day treatment program. The mother who has been in prison will not do anything. She says she will go to the family therapist and at the last minute backs out. My granddaughter is getting more and more out of control. She does not want to go with my son on his court ordered days because he disciplines her by taking away her phone or tv etc when she acts up. My granddaughter is not being taken care of by the mom. The mom does drugs in front of my granddaughter. My granddaughter has told me a lot of things that the mom does but will not tell anybody in court because she does not want her mom to go back to jail.
What can my son do to get my granddaughter help? He feels his hands are tied because the mom lets her do whatever she wants to do and so my granddaughter will not accept any disciplining/visits with my son. Going to court is ridiculous. He already spent thousands of dollars doing that and no matter what, the judge sides with moms. My son has never been in prison, duis, drugs or any of that. THe mom has a long history of police records. My son is supposed to have his daughter 11 days and the mom 6 days. But the granddaughter will not go to my son's house anymore. He cannot force her.
He does not have sole custody anymore because the mom took him to court after she got out of prison. It did not matter to the judge that she was involved with the police several times after her stint in prison while seeking joint custody. It did not matter to the judge that she NEVER gave a hair specimen to check for drugs while my son did and his girlfriend did too. It did not matter to the judge at that time that the mom was living from one boyfriend to the next with no real stable home. It did not matter to the judge about anything except that she is the mom. That's all I can figure out. My son has been in his home for the last 10 years. He has been working since much longer before his daughter was born. He does look a little rough though. I sometimes wonder if that is a problem. He has a lot of tattoos. So does the mom. She has even more than he does.
What can he do?
What can my son do to get my granddaughter help? He feels his hands are tied because the mom lets her do whatever she wants to do and so my granddaughter will not accept any disciplining/visits with my son. Going to court is ridiculous. He already spent thousands of dollars doing that and no matter what, the judge sides with moms. My son has never been in prison, duis, drugs or any of that. THe mom has a long history of police records. My son is supposed to have his daughter 11 days and the mom 6 days. But the granddaughter will not go to my son's house anymore. He cannot force her.
He does not have sole custody anymore because the mom took him to court after she got out of prison. It did not matter to the judge that she was involved with the police several times after her stint in prison while seeking joint custody. It did not matter to the judge that she NEVER gave a hair specimen to check for drugs while my son did and his girlfriend did too. It did not matter to the judge at that time that the mom was living from one boyfriend to the next with no real stable home. It did not matter to the judge about anything except that she is the mom. That's all I can figure out. My son has been in his home for the last 10 years. He has been working since much longer before his daughter was born. He does look a little rough though. I sometimes wonder if that is a problem. He has a lot of tattoos. So does the mom. She has even more than he does.
What can he do?
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