OK the date is october 19 2004
persons involved: sister in law / sister in law's boy friend/ myself / wife / 4 month old baby girl (our daughter)
actions and general series of events: one day sister in law comes home in a wild door slamming whirlwind and goes into her room and starts yelling in her room. so my wife goes to find out why her sister is slamming doors and yelling at herself in her room... so she knocks and opens the door and sees the boyfriend going out the window( i did not see this)
she then confronts her sister and asks why she is acting this way and why her medicine bottle is empty and why she isnt at work... and why she has been avoiding us for two weeks. Sister in law says she walked out of her job because her manager yelled at her and now she dosent want to here any shit from us! so i walk in at this point because my 4 month old daughter is in the middle and the sisters are being loud so i start by laying out the adult facts and where the sister in law is in the wrong. i.e. : non payment of rent and the shady boyfriend and missing change and cigarettes and little things sodas vanishing left overs gone stuff like that and how we are not blind, stupid or ignorant of the boyfriends extended overnight stays and how we are trying to be cool about this but she is making this situation very hard to deal with and that in my opinion shes making some bad decisions and that I do not want a person(the boyfriend) in my household who MAY OR MY NOT HAVE METHAMPHETIMINE CHEMICALS CLINGING TO THEIR PERSON AND BEING NEAR OR AROUND MYSELF OR MY WIFE OR MY CHILD!(several unrelated people have seen the guy smoke or snort meth or other drugs on several occassions as we live in a pretty rural area people talk word gets around 2 bars eagles you know rural america lol ) but if she wants to date him so be it! it is her personal relationship not my area of responsibility she is a adult and can date who ever she wants, until it starts to effect my wifes and childs health then its my responsibility to prevent that from happening and that its the METHAMPHETIMINE factor i will not budge on! examples i stated: A: boyfriend sits in room where people are smoking methamphetimine
he does not join in, fine great good for him, he comes to our house lays on her bed, he leaves 30 mins later sister in law picks up baby puts her on her bed to change a poo poo diaper... meth/bed/baby not rocket science.
B: boyfiend does join in and smokes meth buys some for later, uses bathroom/garage/porch in our house to sneak a toke or two / immedietly following i or my wife or her or GASP the boyfriend carries baby thru area where meth was used. ummm duh anyone?
C: boyfriend buys meth or what ever and is followed from a meth lab or house or wherever he aquiered his dope and gets caught at our house,
meth/baby/cops/Child protective services
again not rocket science simple common sense and cause and effect.
during this speech of mine the 2 girls are still snapping at each other when suddenly the sister in law pushes my wife in the shoulder not the one shes holding the baby in and not terribly hard kind of a bap sister to sister thing..... at this point i put my arms up and step in between and turn to my wife and say get the baby seat and the keys we are leaving
as i turn to tell the sister in law to chill the f#$k out (my exact words)i see she is in a kinda daze, a kinda trance thing ive seen her do before a couple times its pretty scary to encounter. she is pushing against my hand (right) kinda like a wind up robot against a wall ya know walking in place against myhand which is touching her upper left shoulder area maybe just touching the top of her chest area my fingers were kinda half over her shoulder and as i say her name loudly several times she shakes her head and slaps my hand away.... at this point there is a slap sound (now my wife is still right there just a few feet away in the doorway and can "swear on the bible testify" i did not hit anyone or thing... at this point the boy friend yells in the window "youre going to jail you slapped her" and i say "motherf#$ker get off my property before i get out there or youre going to the hospital then jail!" and i proceed to make my way to the front door of my house with my wife yelling at me to please not hurt him ans the sister in law stands there still kinda in a bit of a daze as she is not saying anything or even seems to be paying attention again. i go out the front door... he is nowhere to be seen.... i decide at this point to grab my smokes/keys etc. and walk a 1/4 mile to a good friends house and call my wife... who says the police just showed up and that she has to call her mom because the sister in law is histerical and her boyfriend is telling her i slapped her in the face!! and the cops are saying they are taking the baby and shes going to go out the back slider and climb the fence with our daughter and walk to her moms house a mile or so away! and where the hell am i and shes crying and half hysterical herself! i calm her down a little bit assure her they wont take our kid and tell her to hang tight and call her mom to come NOW! and get the baby at the least!
so i hang up and wait for a bit and call back the cops are gone sister in law and boyfriend are gone for the night she picks me up we go home. she informs me the police took a report and that her sister is going to move in with her mom by the end of the month. i ask her if the cops wanted to talk to me or if they were searching for me and shes says that they just took a report and left didnt say anything else that she remembered but she was all wound up.
i rest assured her that i did not slap her sister and she said she knows she was standing in the doorway and saw the whole thing and that in the morning the sister in law most likely wont remember half of what transpired as this situation has happened on and off since they were little kids.
(the spells and the ... black outs? im not a doctor the episodes we'll say and they get worse when she dosent take her meds.)
so this happens and time passes and things are eventually forgotton by thanksgiving and christmas everything is back to normal as the sister in law resumed her meds living with her mom (she was 18 at the time) the boy friend went thru a treatment and got a job or 3 or 4 since and we have a reliable roommate all is good UNTIL...
3 and 1/2 years later i am arrested on my front porch for a Domestic Violence Failure to Appear 35,000$ bench warrant! assault in the 4th degree!
march 3 08 5 pm or so a pierce county sheriff(washington state) was on a call in my extremely rural town(2* see next post), the sheriff was on a call to a different address on the same street and recalled that there was a warrant for a person on some list and he recalled the town because of its being so rural and the street name (Long Street and the cross street is named Short Street. I told you its really really rural we dont have home us postal service we all have P.O. boxes and have to walk or drive to get our mail) and that he ran a Domestic Violence outstanding warrant check and got a name (mine) then he ran my name thru the Dept of licensing (or DMV) and got my address and here he was just stopping by to see if i was home and to take me to jail...{he didnt say these things exactly like this but it was pretty close}
i am arrested and jailed expecting to be released the next day and
taking care of this mystery warrant. [sidenote: the officer was nice enuf to let me change clothes re call in the warrant to make sure it was current say good bye to my stunned and crying daughter and wife and hand cuff me out of site of my family.]
during the ride i recall a letter i recieved just before we moved to our current address from the DA office stating that there was this police report and to please contact them for more info. i did and related the events as i saw them minus the info i learned at a later date. I left 2 messages and spoke to a gentleman named Mark ... i forget his last name and we moved since the event and forgot about the whole thing.
I NEVER received any further communication from the courts period NOT A SINGLE THING!
next morning i get arraingened and am told that i am a flight risk and have a history evading this charge. even though the records show that the notices the court sent out were returned and undeliverable(1* see next post). and since its been 3 1/2 years and ive shown no desire to confront these charges i should remain in custody until a pretrial date and bail should remain at 35,000$.
i am remanded into custody with a reduced bail/bond from 35,000 to 15,000
until a pre trial date is available. today tuesday march 11 2008.
bail is too expensive for us so i sit in lock up(9 days). then today i get a deal that if i do the Domestic violence program for two years report to a probation officer pay a fine of 850$ minus 600$ for time served @ 75$ a day
have no hostile contact and pay 50 a week and attend every week a DV class anger thing. then the charges will be dropped from my SPOTLESS CRIMINAL HISTORY!!
now this is long and drawn out but i have all the documentation and info to respond to questions herewith.
the above information is the gist of the situation . i can provide much more details as we discuss my case
what i am looking for is a way out of this mess, i will abide and jump thru the hoops for the courts pleasure but while i do so i would like to explore
the legalities of how this all came about and if i have any recourse for
1: getting this case compleatly dismissed or otherwise reversed
2: some type of legal complaint or lawsuit protesting the handling of my case
3: possible renumeration of any fines and or other expenses we have incurred
due to this in my opinion a fairly uncool and unfair and unprofessional treatment of my case by the court system.
4:similar cases or experiences
basically i want to examine the case with you all and tear it apart and
possibly overturn or any of the above or any other not mentioned recourses
avenues or other things i can do to help make this easier for my family to get thru. like ways i can avoid having to drive 90 miles round trip 2 times a week for a year once for a probation officer meeting and once for a anger managment class.
i am eager to see what the people involved in this forum have to say and any help or advice is most welcome and i look forward to providing you all with up to the minute details and replies to questions so you all can possibly have a real time effect on my life and this case lol this is all new to me and kind of exiting to open this up ...basically to the public and let you all see into our lives kind of scary too....
that being said i would like to thank everyone in advance for reading my story and a special thanks to the people who make this site possible.
persons involved: sister in law / sister in law's boy friend/ myself / wife / 4 month old baby girl (our daughter)
actions and general series of events: one day sister in law comes home in a wild door slamming whirlwind and goes into her room and starts yelling in her room. so my wife goes to find out why her sister is slamming doors and yelling at herself in her room... so she knocks and opens the door and sees the boyfriend going out the window( i did not see this)
she then confronts her sister and asks why she is acting this way and why her medicine bottle is empty and why she isnt at work... and why she has been avoiding us for two weeks. Sister in law says she walked out of her job because her manager yelled at her and now she dosent want to here any shit from us! so i walk in at this point because my 4 month old daughter is in the middle and the sisters are being loud so i start by laying out the adult facts and where the sister in law is in the wrong. i.e. : non payment of rent and the shady boyfriend and missing change and cigarettes and little things sodas vanishing left overs gone stuff like that and how we are not blind, stupid or ignorant of the boyfriends extended overnight stays and how we are trying to be cool about this but she is making this situation very hard to deal with and that in my opinion shes making some bad decisions and that I do not want a person(the boyfriend) in my household who MAY OR MY NOT HAVE METHAMPHETIMINE CHEMICALS CLINGING TO THEIR PERSON AND BEING NEAR OR AROUND MYSELF OR MY WIFE OR MY CHILD!(several unrelated people have seen the guy smoke or snort meth or other drugs on several occassions as we live in a pretty rural area people talk word gets around 2 bars eagles you know rural america lol ) but if she wants to date him so be it! it is her personal relationship not my area of responsibility she is a adult and can date who ever she wants, until it starts to effect my wifes and childs health then its my responsibility to prevent that from happening and that its the METHAMPHETIMINE factor i will not budge on! examples i stated: A: boyfriend sits in room where people are smoking methamphetimine
he does not join in, fine great good for him, he comes to our house lays on her bed, he leaves 30 mins later sister in law picks up baby puts her on her bed to change a poo poo diaper... meth/bed/baby not rocket science.
B: boyfiend does join in and smokes meth buys some for later, uses bathroom/garage/porch in our house to sneak a toke or two / immedietly following i or my wife or her or GASP the boyfriend carries baby thru area where meth was used. ummm duh anyone?
C: boyfriend buys meth or what ever and is followed from a meth lab or house or wherever he aquiered his dope and gets caught at our house,
meth/baby/cops/Child protective services
again not rocket science simple common sense and cause and effect.
during this speech of mine the 2 girls are still snapping at each other when suddenly the sister in law pushes my wife in the shoulder not the one shes holding the baby in and not terribly hard kind of a bap sister to sister thing..... at this point i put my arms up and step in between and turn to my wife and say get the baby seat and the keys we are leaving
as i turn to tell the sister in law to chill the f#$k out (my exact words)i see she is in a kinda daze, a kinda trance thing ive seen her do before a couple times its pretty scary to encounter. she is pushing against my hand (right) kinda like a wind up robot against a wall ya know walking in place against myhand which is touching her upper left shoulder area maybe just touching the top of her chest area my fingers were kinda half over her shoulder and as i say her name loudly several times she shakes her head and slaps my hand away.... at this point there is a slap sound (now my wife is still right there just a few feet away in the doorway and can "swear on the bible testify" i did not hit anyone or thing... at this point the boy friend yells in the window "youre going to jail you slapped her" and i say "motherf#$ker get off my property before i get out there or youre going to the hospital then jail!" and i proceed to make my way to the front door of my house with my wife yelling at me to please not hurt him ans the sister in law stands there still kinda in a bit of a daze as she is not saying anything or even seems to be paying attention again. i go out the front door... he is nowhere to be seen.... i decide at this point to grab my smokes/keys etc. and walk a 1/4 mile to a good friends house and call my wife... who says the police just showed up and that she has to call her mom because the sister in law is histerical and her boyfriend is telling her i slapped her in the face!! and the cops are saying they are taking the baby and shes going to go out the back slider and climb the fence with our daughter and walk to her moms house a mile or so away! and where the hell am i and shes crying and half hysterical herself! i calm her down a little bit assure her they wont take our kid and tell her to hang tight and call her mom to come NOW! and get the baby at the least!
so i hang up and wait for a bit and call back the cops are gone sister in law and boyfriend are gone for the night she picks me up we go home. she informs me the police took a report and that her sister is going to move in with her mom by the end of the month. i ask her if the cops wanted to talk to me or if they were searching for me and shes says that they just took a report and left didnt say anything else that she remembered but she was all wound up.
i rest assured her that i did not slap her sister and she said she knows she was standing in the doorway and saw the whole thing and that in the morning the sister in law most likely wont remember half of what transpired as this situation has happened on and off since they were little kids.
(the spells and the ... black outs? im not a doctor the episodes we'll say and they get worse when she dosent take her meds.)
so this happens and time passes and things are eventually forgotton by thanksgiving and christmas everything is back to normal as the sister in law resumed her meds living with her mom (she was 18 at the time) the boy friend went thru a treatment and got a job or 3 or 4 since and we have a reliable roommate all is good UNTIL...
3 and 1/2 years later i am arrested on my front porch for a Domestic Violence Failure to Appear 35,000$ bench warrant! assault in the 4th degree!
march 3 08 5 pm or so a pierce county sheriff(washington state) was on a call in my extremely rural town(2* see next post), the sheriff was on a call to a different address on the same street and recalled that there was a warrant for a person on some list and he recalled the town because of its being so rural and the street name (Long Street and the cross street is named Short Street. I told you its really really rural we dont have home us postal service we all have P.O. boxes and have to walk or drive to get our mail) and that he ran a Domestic Violence outstanding warrant check and got a name (mine) then he ran my name thru the Dept of licensing (or DMV) and got my address and here he was just stopping by to see if i was home and to take me to jail...{he didnt say these things exactly like this but it was pretty close}
i am arrested and jailed expecting to be released the next day and
taking care of this mystery warrant. [sidenote: the officer was nice enuf to let me change clothes re call in the warrant to make sure it was current say good bye to my stunned and crying daughter and wife and hand cuff me out of site of my family.]
during the ride i recall a letter i recieved just before we moved to our current address from the DA office stating that there was this police report and to please contact them for more info. i did and related the events as i saw them minus the info i learned at a later date. I left 2 messages and spoke to a gentleman named Mark ... i forget his last name and we moved since the event and forgot about the whole thing.
I NEVER received any further communication from the courts period NOT A SINGLE THING!
next morning i get arraingened and am told that i am a flight risk and have a history evading this charge. even though the records show that the notices the court sent out were returned and undeliverable(1* see next post). and since its been 3 1/2 years and ive shown no desire to confront these charges i should remain in custody until a pretrial date and bail should remain at 35,000$.
i am remanded into custody with a reduced bail/bond from 35,000 to 15,000
until a pre trial date is available. today tuesday march 11 2008.
bail is too expensive for us so i sit in lock up(9 days). then today i get a deal that if i do the Domestic violence program for two years report to a probation officer pay a fine of 850$ minus 600$ for time served @ 75$ a day
have no hostile contact and pay 50 a week and attend every week a DV class anger thing. then the charges will be dropped from my SPOTLESS CRIMINAL HISTORY!!
now this is long and drawn out but i have all the documentation and info to respond to questions herewith.
the above information is the gist of the situation . i can provide much more details as we discuss my case
what i am looking for is a way out of this mess, i will abide and jump thru the hoops for the courts pleasure but while i do so i would like to explore
the legalities of how this all came about and if i have any recourse for
1: getting this case compleatly dismissed or otherwise reversed
2: some type of legal complaint or lawsuit protesting the handling of my case
3: possible renumeration of any fines and or other expenses we have incurred
due to this in my opinion a fairly uncool and unfair and unprofessional treatment of my case by the court system.
4:similar cases or experiences
basically i want to examine the case with you all and tear it apart and
possibly overturn or any of the above or any other not mentioned recourses
avenues or other things i can do to help make this easier for my family to get thru. like ways i can avoid having to drive 90 miles round trip 2 times a week for a year once for a probation officer meeting and once for a anger managment class.
i am eager to see what the people involved in this forum have to say and any help or advice is most welcome and i look forward to providing you all with up to the minute details and replies to questions so you all can possibly have a real time effect on my life and this case lol this is all new to me and kind of exiting to open this up ...basically to the public and let you all see into our lives kind of scary too....
that being said i would like to thank everyone in advance for reading my story and a special thanks to the people who make this site possible.
