Parental Rights of Minor Aged Parents

[a999]

Jurisdiction

Alabama

Hello, I am very stressed out right now and am seeking some advice for my current situation. My boyfriend is 18, and I will be 17 this summer. We are expecting a baby in the fall. My Father has made me very stressed out since I have told my family of my pregnancy. He will not allow my boyfriend to live with us, which he has the right since it is his house, but he has told me the rules are that my boyfriend can only come over so many days a week and only spend one night a week. My boyfriend wants to be able to see his child and care for it every single day and spend more then one night with his own child a week. I once mention the child going to it`s other grandparent`s house(my boyfriend`s), and he said not until the child is at least one years old. I understand I am not legally emancipated from being pregnant and I know the AL emancipation law. However, as I stated before, my father`s "rules" and the way he speaks to me and acts has been very upsetting and stressful to me. He is not home often due to his job but calls almost daily and gets angry very easily, and when he is home he does it as well. He has always been like this, very angry and to the point of emotional abuse. I am still a minor, but my boyfriend and I will have parental rights. Despite my Father`s "rules", my boyfriend wants to see his child every day, even if not allowed to come over he will come and take it to his house,(which yes is a safe enviorment). My questions are: Can my boyfriend see his child as often as he wants?( i know father can prevent him from coming to our house or seeing me), but can he prevent my boyfriend from taking his child to his house and seeing it? Despite being minors, we both have full parental rights, correct? Due to the high leval of stress my Father is causing me, is there anything I could do? What would someone in the law do if I told them about my Father and the stress he is causing? Is our best bet to consult an attorny/tell someone in the law, OR, to wait it out until next year when I turn 18?

 

[army judge]

Hello, I am very stressed out right now and am seeking some advice for my current situation. My boyfriend is 18, and I will be 17 this summer. We are expecting a baby in the fall. My Father has made me very stressed out since I have told my family of my pregnancy. He will not allow my boyfriend to live with us, which he has the right since it is his house, but he has told me the rules are that my boyfriend can only come over so many days a week and only spend one night a week. My boyfriend wants to be able to see his child and care for it every single day and spend more then one night with his own child a week. I once mention the child going to it`s other grandparent`s house(my boyfriend`s), and he said not until the child is at least one years old. I understand I am not legally emancipated from being pregnant and I know the AL emancipation law. However, as I stated before, my father`s "rules" and the way he speaks to me and acts has been very upsetting and stressful to me. He is not home often due to his job but calls almost daily and gets angry very easily, and when he is home he does it as well. He has always been like this, very angry and to the point of emotional abuse. I am still a minor, but my boyfriend and I will have parental rights. Despite my Father`s "rules", my boyfriend wants to see his child every day, even if not allowed to come over he will come and take it to his house,(which yes is a safe enviorment). My questions are: Can my boyfriend see his child as often as he wants?( i know father can prevent him from coming to our house or seeing me), but can he prevent my boyfriend from taking his child to his house and seeing it? Despite being minors, we both have full parental rights, correct? Due to the high leval of stress my Father is causing me, is there anything I could do? What would someone in the law do if I told them about my Father and the stress he is causing? Is our best bet to consult an attorny/tell someone in the law, OR, to wait it out until next year when I turn 18?

There's no way a court will order your father, or any other uninvolved adult to allow anyone (yes, that includes the alleged putative father of your fetus) to visit the hole over the objections of the homeowner.

By the way, an unmarried male has zero, as in NONE, paternal rights until the child is born, and said alleged father PROVES paternity via DNA testing and goes to court to establish a custody order, paternal rights, and court ordered child support.

So, if I were you, I'd be grateful for what your parental unit(s) has (have) said he (they) will allow.

 

[KatDini]

You are not out from under the control of your parents until you are 19 in Alabama. You are not an adult until you are 19 in Alabama.
Section 26-1-1

With that said, your father has the right to say who is in his house; however, if you wish to send Baby over to his/her Dad's house, you can do so, whenever you want.

 

[shrinkmaster]

Unless you wish to see your lover banned entirely from you and home I would follow current guidelines offered. Your parents have 100% control over who comes to their home and sees their minor child. In addition depending on how long you have been engaged in sexual activity with this adult he could face serious charges so I would not piss off your parents

 

[cbg]

Can my boyfriend see his child as often as he wants? No. Until he is is legally named the father by the courts, he does not have a child.

( i know father can prevent him from coming to our house or seeing me), but can he prevent my boyfriend from taking his child to his house and seeing it? He cannot prevent your boyfriend from taking the child to his house as long as you give permission. He CAN prevent your boyfriend from coming to your father's house. Ever.

Despite being minors, we both have full parental rights, correct? Not correct. Until a court says otherwise, you have 100% of parental rights and your boyfriend has zero.

Due to the high leval of stress my Father is causing me, is there anything I could do? Yes. You can move out on your 19th birthday. Until then, however, as far as YOU are concerned, your father is GOD. You may make all the decisions about your child - your father gets to make all the decisions about his child - you.

What would someone in the law do if I told them about my Father and the stress he is causing? Nothing whatsoever. The law does not give half a hoot if your father is stressing you out. That's what he's supposed to do - it's called parenting. You'll learn all about that in a few years.

Is our best bet to consult an attorny/tell someone in the law, OR, to wait it out until next year when I turn 18? You can consult an attorney if you want to, but your father is not violating any laws and the law is not going to tell him to do anything different. He's allowed to parent HIS child - you - as he sees fit and the law will not force him to change his parenting style. And as mentioned about, in your state the age of majority is 19, not 18