Please Help! Can this be resolved in a legal matter?

[lilamer2468]

I'm 19 years old and I'm currently in college. My dad doesn't let leave out of my house and I'm not allowed to work. I receive financial aid and he wants to take it from me again since he took mines on the fall of 2009. He keeps desperately asking for the check and I don't know what to do. I keep expressing my way about college and to let me find work but he doesn't listen because he thinks he's the man of the house. My mom is scared to speak up to him because all he does is get angry at us and start having a temper. When my mom speak up to my dad, he puts her down because she has no say. I can't leave my house because I'm not allowed and I don't have money to go anywhere. I feel helpless and I can't take my dad anymore. Is this a legal problem? Thank you for your time for reading this.

 

[army judge]

You should speak to a counselor at your college.

You do get out to attend college, right?

Don't give him the check.

Do speak to the counselor and ask for help in moving out.

Or, go to the police and ask them to accompany you to the home to get your stuff.

Don't tell him in advance what you're planning.

Do not give that evil bully your check.

There is help available to you.

Ask.

You're an adult and this is America.
Slavery ended in 1863!!!

 

[lilamer2468]

Thank you very much but one more question. Is this going to be a time waiting problem because I don't know know if I can move out fast of my house just in case the counselors don't find me a place. I've been talking to a counselor and they're only option was family therapy. I told my dad about that and he thought I was crazy and wanted me to be admitted to a hospital.

 

[Proserpina]

Any reason why you can't move and and become independent?

I suppose I'm not seeing a legal question - OP simply needs to be the adult that s/he is and move out.

 

[lilamer2468]

Because my dad is really controlling and threatens me to stay in the house. How can I move out if I can't work and don't have money? I'm not allowed to do anything at all and I would if he listen but he threatens me.

 

[Proserpina]

You can walk out of the house, walk down to the local shelter and declare yourself homeless. He CANNOT compel you to return, and he CANNOT stop you from doing that.

You can also remain at home and get yourself a part time job - if he actually harms you or tries to physically restrain you from leaving the house, then you call 911 and let the police arrest him for assault.

I understand that you feel intimidated - but you've got to stand up for yourself. Empower yourself. Take a stand!

This is YOUR life, not his. He's controlling you because you're not fighting it.