Question About Custody Order

[simmom5119]

Our court order states that the first available parent is to watch the child on sick days and student holidays and returned to parent whose overnight it is. Does this include if the step-parent is available and what if both parents are working and step-parent is available? Does the child need to go to the step-parent or can they go to an unrelated friend?

The situation that this pertains to is that the child will be at my house and his (soon-to-be) step-father will be home for the school holiday but the father is also off and wants to spend the day with the child. Can he legally stay home with the step-father since that is the house he would have been at that day if it were a school day?

For future reference I would like to know if this includes that if both parents are working and a step-parent is available (either step-mom or step-dad) does the child need to go to a step-parent first before an unrelated person. This would be in a situation where it would be the step-parent in the opposite house.

 

[army judge]

I fail to comprehend your question.

If you're asking can the step-parent (or another adult) babysit the child, I don't see why not.

Unless the custody order states specifically that mom or dad are the ONLY two adults to oversee the child, I suppose any responsible adult could watch the child.

What if you hired a babysitter?

Well, that is okay in most cases, if not all cases.

So, step-father, boyfriend, housemate, grandmother, uncle, aunt, almost any RESPONSIBLE adult would be okay.

UNLESS, the custody order says otherwise.

Read YOUR custody order.

An anonymous stranger on the internet can't give you permission to disobey YOUR custody order.


But, if the person you're proposing to watch the child is a convicted child molester or abuser, or a person required to register for life as a sexual offender; I'd reconsider allowing such an individual to even be around the child.

WHY?

Well, the child could be HARMED, or YOU could lose your custody and/or visitation rights!!!

 

[simmom5119]

The order states "on unaccounted for student holidays and sick days the first available parent is to care for the child. The Child will return to the parent who has the overnight in the afternoon"

My question is does it matter between step-parents and parents? The other parent is available and wants the child but my boyfriend will be here to watch the child. Will I be in contempt of the court order if I do not allow the child to go with the other parent?

I also wanted to know if on days both parents are working and the step-mom is available do I have to send the child to her or can I hire a babysitter?

 

[Proserpina]

What's the harm in letting Dad have the child?

Seriously?

And really - you want your boyfriend to watch the child, but you don't want stepmom to look after the child? What's that all about?

 

[disagreeable]

With OP's co-parenting skills, I feel sorry for this child.

 

[simmom5119]

I don't have an issue with step-mom but it is sometimes easier to hire a babysitter than have her come pick him up and then meet up again later if it is my overnight. My boyfriend and him have plans on the school holiday that is why I do not want him going to his dads.

I want to know if I will be in contempt if I do not allow him to go.

 

[army judge]

I don't have an issue with step-mom but it is sometimes easier to hire a babysitter than have her come pick him up and then meet up again later if it is my overnight. My boyfriend and him have plans on the school holiday that is why I do not want him going to his dads.

I want to know if I will be in contempt if I do not allow him to go.

You won't be in contempt, unless and until a judge declares you to be in contempt.

That will only happen if dad takes you to court and whines about denying him his visitation.

I don't know dad, and I don't know you.

But, I'm willing to bet, dad will have you hauled before the judge and he'll definitely be whining about you denying him his visitation.

Then, and only then, will you be declared in contempt.

 

[disagreeable]

If you did not like the order, you should not have agreed to it. Go back to court and request it be amended.

 

[Proserpina]

I don't have an issue with step-mom but it is sometimes easier to hire a babysitter than have her come pick him up and then meet up again later if it is my overnight. My boyfriend and him have plans on the school holiday that is why I do not want him going to his dads.

I want to know if I will be in contempt if I do not allow him to go.

Hopefully Dad WILL haul you into court.

You're playing games, Mom. It's going to backfire on you big time if you're not careful. I doubt you want to see Dad getting primary custody, right?

Then knock off the games.