religion dispute in custody agreement

[dumbape]

From North Carolina - - My wife and I are from very different religious backgrounds. We have been separated for 1 1/2 years and share joint custody. I would like to make an addition to our current separation agreement (which has been notarized only) that would make limitations to what religious based activities our child (4 years-old) be exposed to. What are our rights in this regard? I, personally, would like my child to make his own decisions on this matter, following his own path. But, because of his age, would like to protect him until he develops his own reasons for whatever path he may decide upon. What to do?

 

[Duranie]

You guys are 2 different religions, why should the wife be restricted on practicing hers? Are you willing to abide by the same agreement? The religion didn't bother you when you were married. Who is the custodial parent here? It is VERY unlikely either parent can restrict the other parent and the courts are more likely to want the child exposed too whatever religion they are currently used too. At age of 4 the child has 14 more years before they can legally pratice what they want.

 

[dumbape]

Thank you for your sentiments on the matter. Personally, I believe religion/spirituality to be a deeply personal journey and ever-evolving philosophy on lifes' long progression. Regardless of whatever religions my wife and I belong to, my concern lies with our childs' upbringing and letting him develop his own sense of who he is and what he may or may not believe. I have seen both good and bad come out of organized religions, community and a sense of belonging among the good, intolerance of those that may believe differently among the bad. Despite whatever differences in belief there may be where does the court fall on this issue? Would a "religion" that may be deemed a "cult" be sufficient enough to raise concern of a potential threat? I would rather be promoting curiousity in my child than treading the slippery slope of 'what Mommy believes' may be different than what most other people may believe thus undermining her in her efforts to do what she believes is best. This is not a position I enjoy being in.