Scheduled therapy after custody order

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manystyles

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Custody order was initiated at the end of February/2017 for 15 year old. I have her every other weekend. Her mother schedules the childs therapy sessions on Saturday's, which include my weekends. Custody order doesn' t really go into specifics about treatment. The only rule that's somewhat close is number 8. It states that custodial parent has to take child to scheduled activities, etc.
I've called Montgomer County courthouse to get a definitive answer to this, but they state they can' t determine or interpret that order. It would be between the mother and I.
I just want to be sure that I don't have to take her because it pulls away from the family time we have with her.

Thanks
 
manystyles said:
Custody order was initiated at the end of February/2017 for 15 year old. I have her every other weekend. Her mother schedules the childs therapy sessions on Saturday's, which include my weekends. Custody order doesn' t really go into specifics about treatment. The only rule that's somewhat close is number 8. It states that custodial parent has to take child to scheduled activities, etc.
I've called Montgomer County courthouse to get a definitive answer to this, but they state they can' t determine or interpret that order. It would be between the mother and I.
I just want to be sure that I don't have to take her because it pulls away from the family time we have with her.

Thanks
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Think about what you're saying, mate.
The child requires some form of medical care.
The appointments are scheduled on Saturdays.
If we were discussing dance lessons, you might have a valid point.
The child requires medical care, a responsible, concerned parent sees to it that the child receives the care.
This is a battle you will ultimately lose, and you'll be made to look very foolish, selfish, and petty.
Do all that you can to support the child as she pursues her medical needs.
 
manystyles said:
Custody order was initiated at the end of February/2017 for 15 year old. I have her every other weekend. Her mother schedules the childs therapy sessions on Saturday's, which include my weekends. Custody order doesn' t really go into specifics about treatment. The only rule that's somewhat close is number 8. It states that custodial parent has to take child to scheduled activities, etc.
I've called Montgomer County courthouse to get a definitive answer to this, but they state they can' t determine or interpret that order. It would be between the mother and I.
I just want to be sure that I don't have to take her because it pulls away from the family time we have with her.

Thanks
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Really? You don't want to help your daughter because it interferes with family time. Most sessions are an hour. If she is in counseling she must really need it. If your order states you take her to activities "etc" (does it really say etc?) then you take her. Why wouldn't you want to take her to a medical appointment? If it was for an exam or because she had a physical illness or condition would you not want to take her because of interfering with "family time?"

You could ask your ex to not schedule her on the weekends you have her and try to do it during the week.

No it's not the clerk's job at the courthouse to interpret your orders. If you have to, go back and have it modified.
 
You are a parent. It is your responsibility to care for your child which includes counseling. If you were still married would you deny her treatment because it cut into "family time"? Visitation is not fun time to play Disneyland Daddy. It is so you can parent your kid with all the obligations and not so fun stuff that goes with it. Welcome to parenthood.
 
Points are understandable. Even if the therapy sessions are 2 hours away? I live in Delaware she lives in PA. So, I would be 4-5 hours on the road every Saturday she comes down here.
 
Okay that is a lot to expect. Have you checked to see IF the appointments could be made during the week, or if for some reason Saturday is the only time available?
 
manystyles said:
Points are understandable. Even if the therapy sessions are 2 hours away? I live in Delaware she lives in PA. So, I would be 4-5 hours on the road every Saturday she comes down here.
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While your daughter undergoes treatment, it might be wise to forego visits on Saturdays when she does.

As a compromise, you could visit her electronically before she goes to bed.
I'm sure the sessions tire her, too.
Most parents eagerly do kind, generous things to help their kids.
Let her know that you love her so much that you think she needs to improve her health more than tire herself out with a long car ride after a long therapy session.

Her mother will start wide eyes, and wonder what the aliens did with your body.

Our actions and our deeds, bold indeed do change opinions and conclusions people draw about us.
 
army judge said:
While your daughter undergoes treatment, it might be wise to forego visits on Saturdays when she does.

As a compromise, you could visit her electronically before she goes to bed.
I'm sure the sessions tire her, too.
Most parents eagerly do kind, generous things to help their kids.
Let her know that you love her so much that you think she needs to improve her health more than tire herself out with a long car ride after a long therapy session.

Her mother will start wide eyes, and wonder what the aliens did with your body.

Our actions and our deeds, bold indeed do change opinions and conclusions people draw about us.
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I just got her back down to our house after 3 months. She only comes down twice a month as is. Some of her issues are not seeing her father, missing her brothers, mother smothering.. I dont want to go back to not seeing her.
 
manystyles said:
I just got her back down to our house after 3 months. She only comes down twice a month as is. Some of her issues are not seeing her father, missing her brothers, mother smothering.. I dont want to go back to not seeing her.
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Then it's time to hire a lawyer.
Most legal issues are too complicated for legal discussion sites.
 
If the kid is in therapy 3 times a week, for crying out loud, take her! Use the drive time as a chance to bond. Plan family outings and activities near or on the way to and from the office. Do not expect a judge to look favorably upon you attempting to put all 3 sessions on mom, or cut short the child's therapy needs so you can have more fun time. When you live in a different state than your kid, it isn't always convenient.
 

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