Single Pregnant Mother Worried.

[althorn94]

I am pregnant and seriously wondering and worried about if the father of my child has any chance in getting custody. First of all he has gone completely crazy since we found out i was pregnant. He lives in a different state but close enough to drive within an hour. I had to get a restraining order on him because of this. I want to get full custody to keep my daughter safe. What do I do ? What is the most likely outcome of this situation if it went to court ?

Someone please help...
And yes I know I can't go to court til the child is born and I am okay with that I just need to know.

 

[Proserpina]

Custody will be decided based upon the best interests of the child.

Please understand though, that WA prefers joint legal custody (decision-making) and some sort of joint physical custody. This doesn't mean a 50/50 timeshare (which is not good for a teeny baby and the courts here recognize this). Also given that he's in a different state it virtually wipes out the chance of a 50/50 timeshare.

He WILL get a parenting plan though. You can request that he visits in your community at first.

 

[althorn94]

So even though I have thos restraining order because he put me in danger during my pregnancy he still will get some sort of custody ?

 

[mightymoose]

He will still get visitation with the child even though you have a restraining order for yourself.
However, he won't get any visitation at all unless he initiates the appropriate court procedure in the appropriate location. Until there is a court order for visitation you are not obligated to do anything.

 

[Betty3]

It's very likely he will - yes. The court will decide re custody based on all information.

 

[army judge]

You're confusing visitation with custody. Google the terms and become familiar with the differences.

 

[Betty3]

So even though I have thos restraining order because he put me in danger during my pregnancy he still will get some sort of custody ?

As Proserpina noted, custody will be decided on the best interest of the child (after a review of all facts by the court).

He will get visitation granted by the court though.

 

[Betty3]

I couldn't edit for some reason but he may very well get some type of custody.

 

[althorn94]

I understand the difference , its just a scary thought for me.

 

[Proserpina]

Joint legal is fairly standard in WA - a restraining order rarely (if ever) changes this.

All "joint custody" means is that both parents have some form of physical custody. It, once again, does not infer a 50/50 timeshare.

 

[army judge]

I understand the difference , its just a scary thought for me.

Well, it's not going to happen tomorrow. I suggest you follow the orders of your physician and concentrate on having a healthy, happy baby. You need to eat right, get rest, hydrate, and relax

Many of these deadbeats are all talk and no action. If it requires any work, they usually forget about filing for visitation.

Until he establishes paternity, he won't get visitation. That in itself requires work, and that turns deadbeats off.

Stop communicating with this bum, focus on yourself and baby. Change your phone number and email address, and don't let him bait or upset you.


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[althorn94]

Well, it's not going to happen tomorrow. I suggest you follow the orders of your physician I'mand concentrate on having a healthy, happy baby. You need to eat right, get rest, hydrate, and relax

Many of these deadbeats are all talk and no action. If it requires any work, they usually forget about filing for visitation.

Until he establishes paternity, he won't get visitation. That in itself requires work, and that turns deadbeats off.

Stop communicating with this bum, focus on yourself and baby. Change your phone number and email address, and don't let him bait or upset you.


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Thank you And there has not been contact between us since the restraining order. Just getting facts together incase he tries anything.