Slander?

[shan4361]

Please help - I am being threatened with being sued for slander by my ex-husband. I am ex-wife #5, and ex-wife #4 and I still talk, as we both have children from our ex. She created a false myspace page to talk to him and get him interested in this made-up person and find out who his frineds are. Shw wrote a letter to all of his friends, telling them about his 6 marriages, marital abuse, arrests in several states, and things of that nature. I did help her write the letter, as I married to him during some of the arrests. She posted the letter online to his friends. She sent me the information to look at the page, and lo and behold, my ex has left me the message: "good try shan, ive dowloaded everything for prosecution for slander".

Can he sue me for slander? everyhting in the letter is true, and can be backed up with court documents, that he was arrested, went to court, etc. some of the records can be found online for VA, and she paid for records fom IN.

I need some advice, as I have 5 kids and cant afford to be locked up, and my ex is very viscious and would do it for spite if he thought he could.

 

[jacksgal]

Where I think you two ladies could spend your time raising your kids and finding hobbies outside of letting Ex live rent free in your head it does not appear he has a case. He is free to puruse a suit but a simple google search came up with the following a as "legal" defeinsition of slander




slander


A type of defamation. Slander is an untruthful oral (spoken) statement about a person that harms the person's reputation or standing in the community. Because slander is a tort (a civil wrong), the injured person can bring a lawsuit against the person who made the false statement. If the statement is made via broadcast media -- for example, over the radio or on TV -- it is considered libel, rather than slander, because the statement has the potential to reach a very wide audience.

I am guessing his claim falls under libel not slander but again he has no case. Notice the portions in bold

 

[shan4361]

thank you for your advice. I think the main reason that we did this is because he is on the prowl for wife #7, and I wish I knew the info before I married him and had 2 kids with him. I didnt find out I was wife #5 until after the fact. again, thanks!

 

[jacksgal]

Not to be rude but he is no longer your concern. You have your own life to live do so without him being part of it. At least in your head.

 

[shan4361]

I agree he is no longer my concern. I guess Im still a little mad at him for leaving me when I was 7 months pregnant with our 2nd child, he dosent pay child support for either, drives a new cadillac, has a new home (all in his moms name), and Im left to pick up the pieces and work and pay day care, etc. whild he moves on to the next one. Sorry, not meaning to rant here. Thanks for your advice.

 

[jacksgal]

I am not unfeeling but my husband has three children from his Ex. She lives 1400 miles away hasnt seen them in 6 years never calls never send gifts cards etc. Fails to pay court ordered support and lives off of state. Uses others names for luxeries etc. My husband learned long ago and quickly he got the best prize the children. He also learned not to let her live rent free in his head and he had no control over her nor her him. All three kids call me Mom plus my one and one of our own. We are a family no step issues and she, the EX has no impact on our lives and whatever does she does we dont let it effect our lives nor do we seek vengence. We are a very happy family as a result. Just my two cents

 

[shan4361]

Thanks so much for your insight! The funny thing is that I have not thought much about my ex for the past 8 years, I have worked and raised my kids and went on with llife, he was nowhere in the picture. Then the other exwife moved back to town, and contacted me, and all of these old feelings came back up. I should have never let her drag me down with her, (they have a son she hasnt seen in several years as she lost custody when he was 5) as she is fighting to see her son.. After reading and re-reading everything today, I realize how silly this all has become. I do want to say thanks for your opinion, it has helped me see it in a new light.