laura201988
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I am 20yrs old and live in South Carolina. I want to leave home and live with my close adult female friend, who is also a single mother. my father is mentally abusive and I feel I must leave.
Unfortunately I am in a situation now which makes leaving almost an impossibility.
A couple of months ago I did go stay with my friend, but one day I stole a check from my dad and wrote it out and cashed it to pay my friends bills. She ended up in a situation where she was about to loose everything and was so down that she was feeling suicidal.
Of course dad and mom found out about the check and they came to her house and took me and my car back home(i got the car title put in my name before i had left home, but they took it and changed it back to his name). The next morning he took me to a judge and said that in order to not go to prison for the maximum punishment(22yrs), I was to never have any contact with my friend again and should be placed in a psychiactric facility. Well i never got put anywhere, yet I guess.
But of course i was not going to just abandon my friend like that, so i thought i was sneaking over to her house quite a few times. Turns out he had neighbors on her street watching for me if i was to see her, and they called dad everytime...unknown to me untill a few days ago.
Well a few days ago my aunt in Canada had called, dad told her everything and it was decided that maybe i should go stay with her for a little while.
Anyway, the next morning i was woken up and told we all had to talk(talk about set up for the kill), and my dad told me i had a choice and there was no way out of it. I had to either go to Canada for a couple months until whenever me and my friend's trial date is, or go to jail instead until then. So i chose Canada, and i will be leaving in a few weeks.
My dad is having her put in trial because he thinks she has some kind of hold on me and is using me for money, which is BS.
I love this woman, this is also a problem. Yes, I'm a fruitcake.
He could never understand. I was willing to sacrifice for her so she would press on with her life.
I hate what he is doing and i dont believe this is all just about a check. He has also never liked my friend anyway, he didn't trust her. she used to work as a PCA and helped with my handicapped brother, before he got her fired. She is not able to find another job, its very hard for her because she has a Breach of Trust on her record from over 10yrs ago so everytime a background check comes up she cant get a job. i know she would like to at least be able to go to back to school and get a CNA licence, but of course it costs. i wish she could get her record cleared, it was so long ago and people are never the same 10yrs later. she is the most loving and giving person you'd ever meet, and doesnt deserve all this mess.
All this is about control, as always.
Anyway, is any of this even legal? Can anyone really keep someone away from another person? Can a father keep her daughter form leaving when she's 20? Something just doesnt seem right to me. Is there anything i can do? What can't i do?
Any advice and help is greatly appreciated.
~Laura~
Unfortunately I am in a situation now which makes leaving almost an impossibility.A couple of months ago I did go stay with my friend, but one day I stole a check from my dad and wrote it out and cashed it to pay my friends bills. She ended up in a situation where she was about to loose everything and was so down that she was feeling suicidal.
Of course dad and mom found out about the check and they came to her house and took me and my car back home(i got the car title put in my name before i had left home, but they took it and changed it back to his name). The next morning he took me to a judge and said that in order to not go to prison for the maximum punishment(22yrs), I was to never have any contact with my friend again and should be placed in a psychiactric facility. Well i never got put anywhere, yet I guess.
But of course i was not going to just abandon my friend like that, so i thought i was sneaking over to her house quite a few times. Turns out he had neighbors on her street watching for me if i was to see her, and they called dad everytime...unknown to me untill a few days ago.
Well a few days ago my aunt in Canada had called, dad told her everything and it was decided that maybe i should go stay with her for a little while.
Anyway, the next morning i was woken up and told we all had to talk(talk about set up for the kill), and my dad told me i had a choice and there was no way out of it. I had to either go to Canada for a couple months until whenever me and my friend's trial date is, or go to jail instead until then. So i chose Canada, and i will be leaving in a few weeks.
My dad is having her put in trial because he thinks she has some kind of hold on me and is using me for money, which is BS.
I love this woman, this is also a problem. Yes, I'm a fruitcake. He could never understand. I was willing to sacrifice for her so she would press on with her life.I hate what he is doing and i dont believe this is all just about a check. He has also never liked my friend anyway, he didn't trust her. she used to work as a PCA and helped with my handicapped brother, before he got her fired. She is not able to find another job, its very hard for her because she has a Breach of Trust on her record from over 10yrs ago so everytime a background check comes up she cant get a job. i know she would like to at least be able to go to back to school and get a CNA licence, but of course it costs. i wish she could get her record cleared, it was so long ago and people are never the same 10yrs later. she is the most loving and giving person you'd ever meet, and doesnt deserve all this mess.
All this is about control, as always.
Anyway, is any of this even legal? Can anyone really keep someone away from another person? Can a father keep her daughter form leaving when she's 20? Something just doesnt seem right to me. Is there anything i can do? What can't i do? Any advice and help is greatly appreciated.
~Laura~
