taking boyfriend to small claims. best way to prove case?

[danielsgal]

Hello. I can really use advise for the situation for my small claim case. My boyfriend and I are both on lease for apartment. He lost his truck job and I paid the rent, utilities, car payment while he looks for new employment. I made payments from my bank account and gave him over $2000 to put in his bank account for making his car payments. I told him the money must be repaid, it's not gift, and he said okay. But he has never paid me back. It is verbal agreement and I pay all in cash so how can I help to prove to the judge? I was told in another forum it is hard to prove the money I give him is mine.

All I can think to prove my case is that my boyfriend never made income from a job, so the fact I pay him is obvious since how wold he have all that money without a job? Even if I date him I don't give tons of free money. So he cannot say to the judge this money was his since he had to get it somehow abnd seem suspicious he just say he got all that money. Also I make the rent and utility payment and we both signed the papers for the lease. So since I made the payment on his behalf, he would owe me just like if was a roommate that moved and never paid the rent. Finally we made a verbal agreement that he knwos the money is to be repaid to me.

 

[army judge]

Courts are not interested in the financial affairs of people that date.
Absent a promissory note, you'll never get a dime from this bum.
In the future, if you loan money, get them to sign a promissory note.
This is a classic "he said", "she said".
Even if you won a judgment, how would an unemployed bum repay you?
The best thing you can do, is sever all ties with this bum.
If he isn't man enough to honor his promises to you, why would you want to maintain a "relationship" with him?
Despite your protestations to the contrary, you are doing exactly what you said you wouldn't.
You're paying his way and yours.
Good luck.

 

[jharris352]

Army I have to disagree with you. Show up to court. He will likely not lie about receiving the money all together. He will try to say it was a gift. You are just going to have to be more believable than he is about it not being a gift. Show what you make, show that $2000 is a sizable amount for you to be "giving" someone and the judge will believe you. Generally you should never do such a thing period. If you are going to loan money again, do it with a note.

 

[army judge]

Okay, JH, she sues, she wins.
Where is the deadbeat bum going to get the money to pay the judgment?
Oh wait, she'll "loan" it to him!!!!