Thinking of taking my nieces, but is it really an option?

[justaquestion]

Jurisdiction

California

Basically my brother is running the streets, sister in law currently stays with her father but that's likely not gonna last too long. I know she gets county and she at least currently has a job now, though I'm not sure she's gonna keep it long without a car. My nieces have bounced from home to home in the past, or in and out of motel rooms. They've been transfered to quite a few schools because of all of this moving as well. But from what I understand because they are currently staying with family I can't really do anything huh?

To keep it short, they've dealt with homelessness and bouncing from house to house and i want a stable environment for them. Doubt my sis n law would be for it, and i know brother wouldn't be(yet) but he's got a warrant out so his opinion is mute for the moment. I really just want them to have a fair shot, they've dealt with to much at a young age. CPS has been involved once in the past but they ended up deeming the parents fit and closing the case. The home they stay in now has a lot of people but it's still under the legal limit because its such a large home. They get fed and have clothes, they just never live in one place long, and they are surrounded by a lot of drama(domestic violence, arguments due to alcohol), it's stressing the 13 year old out. Anything I can do?

 

[KatDini]

Nope, not unless the parents agree to it.

 

[army judge]

Anything I can do?

Yes, if you believe ANY child is in danger, ALWAYS contact the local or appropriate law enforcement agency, and report your concerns.

CPS is simply a weak, understaffed, middle man, don't waste time contacting them first.
The police first, CPS second.

 

[justaquestion]

Nope, not unless the parents agree to it.

Figured

 

[justaquestion]

Yes, if you believe ANY child is in danger, ALWAYS contact the local or appropriate law enforcement agency, and report your concerns.

CPS is simply a weak, understaffed, middle man, don't waste time contacting them first.
The police first, CPS second.

Gotcha, they are in no immediate danger. They just deal with a lot of stress. I just want to spare them from it.

 

[army judge]

Gotcha, they are in no immediate danger. They just deal with a lot of stress. I just want to spare them from it.

I suggest a softer approach.
You could offer to help your relatives relieve stress by taking the kids off their hands for a couple of months.
You say, they'll be safe with me.
I'll make sure they're loved, fed, nurtured, and supported.
That way it frees you to seek employment, housing, etc.., and you know your kids will be in great hands as long as they're with me.
I promise you, they'll always be safe.

See what push back you get, and thank them other party no matter what they say.

Something like this will always work, "Yeah, I thought you didn't need my help. But, I'll be here for you and them if you ever do. I just love you all so much, and only want the best for your family."

That way, no matter what happens, you offered your help.

Your kindness was rejected, and you need not feel sad or take any blame WHEN things eventually do go off the tracks.

 

[justaquestion]

I suggest a softer approach.
You could offer to help your relatives relieve stress by taking the kids off their hands for a couple of months.
You say, they'll be safe with me.
I'll make sure they're loved, fed, nurtured, and supported.
That way it frees you to seek employment, housing, etc.., and you know your kids will be in great hands as long as they're with me.
I promise you, they'll always be safe.

See what push back you get, and thank them other party no matter what they say.

Something like this will always work, "Yeah, I thought you didn't need my help. But, I'll be here for you and them if you ever do. I just love you all so much, and only want the best for your family."

That way, no matter what happens, you offered your help.

Your kindness was rejected, and you need not feel sad or take any blame WHEN things eventually do go off the tracks.

Not a bad thought process. These two tend to be highly prideful but even they couldnt get bent out of shape over that. Ill see where it gets me, thanks a lot.

 

[leslie82]

Basically my brother is running the streets, sister in law currently stays with her father but that's likely not gonna last too long. I know she gets county and she at least currently has a job now, though I'm not sure she's gonna keep it long without a car. My nieces have bounced from home to home in the past, or in and out of motel rooms. They've been transfered to quite a few schools because of all of this moving as well. But from what I understand because they are currently staying with family I can't really do anything huh?

To keep it short, they've dealt with homelessness and bouncing from house to house and i want a stable environment for them. Doubt my sis n law would be for it, and i know brother wouldn't be(yet) but he's got a warrant out so his opinion is mute for the moment. I really just want them to have a fair shot, they've dealt with to much at a young age. CPS has been involved once in the past but they ended up deeming the parents fit and closing the case. The home they stay in now has a lot of people but it's still under the legal limit because its such a large home. They get fed and have clothes, they just never live in one place long, and they are surrounded by a lot of drama(domestic violence, arguments due to alcohol), it's stressing the 13 year old out. Anything I can do?

The parents have to agree. Just because your brother has a warrant doesn't make his opinion "moot" either.

As long as they aren't neglected or abused I doubt the state will step in.

If you think there is abuse going on then you can report it.

 

[justaquestion]

The parents have to agree. Just because your brother has a warrant doesn't make his opinion "moot" either.

As long as they aren't neglected or abused I doubt the state will step in.

If you think there is abuse going on then you can report it.

Noted. Btw i just said his opinion was moot because he knows he cant provide for them. Convincing him im the best option wouldnt take much.

But looks like im outta luck regardless unless something big happens to them. Thanks for your reply.