Visitation Arrangements

[crentchler]

My boyfriend and his wife have been divorced for several years. They have three children together. In the divorce arrangements they are supposed to do visitations at his moms house every wednesday and every other sunday. His ex wife moved in with her boyfriend and so he agreed to do the visits at their house, and up until recently they have been just fine. Suddenly, and I'm sure it has something to do with being jealous of me, she has started throwing a fit about the visitation, specifically about me being there and when im not there about him having his cell phone on him. He turns his cell phone down and does pay attention to the kids, but keeps it on vibrate in case of an emergency. He told her that he wants to move the visits back to his mom's house because of the problems, and she is refusing, saying that her boyfriend will have the car on the visitation days. How do we enforce the visitation to be the way it is in the divorce, and what can we do if she does not show up for the visits? We live in Missouri.

 

[army judge]

All parties are required to obey the court's orders.

You can't summarily change them.

If the order says gramma's house, then it has to be gramma's house.

If one party won't obey the order, you have to petition the court to hold the other person in contempt and direct them to obey the order of the court.

He might want to retain a lawyer. He can do this pro se, but a lawyer can sometimes get the other person to conform without going to court. They know they'd lose, so they do as the directed.

If they're divorced, she isn't his wife any longer.

She's technically his "ex-wife"!

 

[lonelyinny]

there is no WE

My boyfriend and his wife have been divorced for several years. They have three children together. In the divorce arrangements they are supposed to do visitations at his moms house every wednesday and every other sunday. His ex wife moved in with her boyfriend and so he agreed to do the visits at their house, and up until recently they have been just fine. Suddenly, and I'm sure it has something to do with being jealous of me, she has started throwing a fit about the visitation, specifically about me being there and when im not there about him having his cell phone on him. He turns his cell phone down and does pay attention to the kids, but keeps it on vibrate in case of an emergency. He told her that he wants to move the visits back to his mom's house because of the problems, and she is refusing, saying that her boyfriend will have the car on the visitation days. How do we enforce the visitation to be the way it is in the divorce, and what can we do if she does not show up for the visits? We live in Missouri.

WE dont do anything. you are not a party to anything concerning his children.if mom doesnt show up dad( and only dad) can file for contempt. if youre being there when he picks up the kids upsets mom, its best if you stay home.