I do understand what you are saying. He can continue to own it but he will have to pay me for half of what it is worth.
Right.
Or, give you an offset where you get the equivalent in another asset.
Keep in mind that nothing has to be split down the middle and you can give or take assets in lieu of money.
Also keep in mind that, if he has a retirement plan, IRA, or 401(k) you're entitled to a part of the value that has accrued during the marriage.
That is what I had told him but he seems to think that the property in Massachusetts is off the table and cannot even be brought up in a divorce.
He is ever so wrong.
He may be thinking that MA is not a community property state. It's not. But, in states that do not have community property laws the property acquired during the marriage is divided equitably (equitable division) between the spouses. This doesn't necessarily mean that each person will receive an equal share. In some states, a judge may order a spouse to transfer separate property to his or her spouse (or make a cash payment) to make the divorce settlement fair for both of them.
There are several sources of information about MA equitable distribution in the following search results:
equitable property division in massachusetts at DuckDuckGo
And yes I will definitely have an attorney.
Don't wait on your husband. Get your lawyer ASAP and file first. It's war now and you'll have the advantage if you are on the offensive.
I also advise you to get a bank account and credit card in your own name and move half the money from your joint account before he gets to it.
One more thing, start duplicating all your important papers and records of everything and take your copies out of the house.
Sooner or later things will get hostile. Do what it takes for self preservation.