Grandmother vs Grandfather

[justblue]

I lived with him for 2 years. Ive been here for him. Visitation probably 5 days or more every 2 weeks. Now all of a sudden she stopped that and said only overt other weekend

Again...How long has you daughter? Define sporadic, please.

Because you are at the 5 per day for newbies limit, edit post #20 to answer my questions.

 

[Yukon Gold]

My daughter has gone a few months without contact. Right after giving her dad temporary guardianship in October 2019 she went into a 90 treatment program. After leaving that program she went to her sister's out of state to continue with outpatient treatment. Then from about February 2020 to July 2020 she relapsed and we lost contact with her. She went back to her dad's for a month in August 2020 but left again. Dec 3, 2020 she went to a 35 day inpatient. She is now in sober living and has a well paying job. She's trying. My daughter does not get along well with her stepmother so staying long at her dad's was difficult but it was the only way to see her son.

 

[army judge]

Oklahoma is one of a handful of states that will grant grandparents visitation as a matter of law.

Oklahoma law allows a court to grant grandparents visitation rights under certain circumstances.

In order for the court to order grandparent(s) visitation it must shown that such visitation is in the best interests of the child and the parent(s) are unfit OR the child would suffer harm (potential harm) if said visitation rights were not to be granted.

That is because the influence of the grandparent(s) on the child has been shown to be positive for said child(ren).

The Legal Aid Society of Oklahoma offers a more detailed explanation:

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Your OK Bar Association commentary:

Court-Ordered Grandparent Visitation

 

[leslie82]

Any help will be greatly appreciated!
My daughter has just completed rehab and is in sober living trying to rebuild her life. When she was deep into her addiction she handed her so over to her father and his new wife - October 2019. He has a health condition that requires 2 shots per day and numerous pills. It's a complicated illness. The new wife is a nurse.
My daughter signed over temporary guardianship so they could take him to his medical appointments etc. It has been a very difficult and emotional 18 months. I can not manage his medical issues or he would be with me. I was out of state when this handover happened. My grandson and I are extremely close. Prior to being handed over he barely knew these people because they were not actively involved in his life. I tried to do a co-guardianship so that I could secure visitation and make sure my grandson stayed close to his siblings. The stepmom refused to allow. My visitation with him has been frequent and somewhat flexible. Now - all these month later - when my daughter is preparing to get him back - the step mom hits the breaks on my visits. Only every other weekend. He just turned 4! No school. No reason to change what was working so well. I'm angry and I believe that the step mom may be putting things in place to contest the return. She tried to adopt 2 children a few years ago but ICWA laws prevented. I'm seeing my grandson as their substitute. She is very harsh - my grandsons siblings won't even go visit because they dislike her - very militant. She is also a late night alcoholic.
My question is what can I do to intervene? To secure my rights? Please help. Thank you

You don't have any rights. You could file for custody but not sure if you'll get it. Your best bet is to talk to a lawyer to see if you can get any custody. Or you wait to see if your daughter gets custody but I doubt she does anytime soon if she just got out of rehab and is in a halfway house.

Your daughter needs to talk to a lawyer to find out what she needs to do to get sole custody of her child from her dad and stepmom.

 

[leslie82]

I lived with him for 2 years. Ive been here for him. Visitation probably 5 days or more every 2 weeks. Now all of a sudden she stopped that and said only overt other weekend

If there's a court order for visitation for you, then take them to court if they're violating it. But your daughter is gonna have a road ahead of her to get any custody back of that child.