Child Abuse, Molestation, Porn How did this child molester not end up in the database?l

[Floridamom]

I need to rephrase. I know it's not my fault if it he's done something awful at some point that would now destroy his family but I can say I won't feel good about contacting law enforcement.

 

[army judge]

I need to rephrase. I know it's not my fault if it he's done something awful at some point that would now destroy his family but I can say I won't feel good about contacting law enforcement.

Before you do anything, do nothing.

While you wait, talk with three or four of your most trusted confidantes.

See what they say.

In all likelihood, you could be wrong, so you want to proceed cautiously.

You are wise NOT to want to hurt innocent people or destroy the lives of good people that happen to be financially challenged.

I understand how you feel the way you do, but try never to generalize or stereotype.

 

[Proserpina]

You don't sound crazy at all.

I actually hate that you had to endure even an ounce of what you did. But you got through, and you're here, and that's the important thing.

And please don't think I'm busting on you when I say this - I'm really not.

But many survivors do have a tendency to perhaps over-analyze benign situations, y'know? On a very personal level, it's wanting to fight for every possible victim and I think most people in that position would be equally concerned.

With that said, if you consider your past experiences and you truly think that there is something amiss, then of course you can report it.

Out of pure interest, have you ever thought about volunteering? To help other victims become survivors?

 

[Floridamom]

Bless you two. In my heart I want nothing more than for the entire thing to have been a complete fabrication against him. That's what I was hoping to see someone here say was a good possibility since he was nowhere to be seen on any lists. If I wasn't the way I am I really doubt I would have checked him at all since he seems like a great person, but that's the kind of thing that sends up red flags with me.

I've thought so many times about trying to volunteer some way. I've built it up so many times that maybe I could be a guardian ad litem. I've thought a hundred times about foster care since I've been through what so many of these kids have. I love children, all of them. I'm kind of the neighborhood mom. When another mom in the neighborhood needs a break they just send their kids to me lol. But the truth is that I'm still a very broken person. Even with all my prescriptions and attempts to be normal I'm still nowhere near where I would need to be to be of much real use as a volunteer.

 

[army judge]

Bless you two. In my heart I want nothing more than for the entire thing to have been a complete fabrication against him. That's what I was hoping to see someone here say was a good possibility since he was nowhere to be seen on any lists. If I wasn't the way I am I really doubt I would have checked him at all since he seems like a great person, but that's the kind of thing that sends up red flags with me.

I've thought so many times about trying to volunteer some way. I've built it up so many times that maybe I could be a guardian ad litem. I've thought a hundred times about foster care since I've been through what so many of these kids have. I love children, all of them. I'm kind of the neighborhood mom. When another mom in the neighborhood needs a break they just send their kids to me lol. But the truth is that I'm still a very broken person. Even with all my prescriptions and attempts to be normal I'm still nowhere near where I would need to be to be of much real use as a volunteer.

Here's a thought, why not try wiring a book?

Don't worry about style, format, all of that literature stuff, just start writing.

Maybe what I meant to say is you could create a journal of the good stuff, the bad stuff, and the in between stuff.

Just write what you want, and when you want.

You can organize it later, and you'd be very surprised what it turns out to be.

I did that about my four years of service I saw back in Viet Nam, oh so very long ago.

I laughed, I cried, I got mad, and I cried some more.

It was meant to be a book about one US Army Ranger's experiences in combat.

It became a place for me to heal myself, so I could later help others.

Funny how life takes us hither and yon, and back again, a serendipitous extravaganza; as my wife once said. LOL

Hey, just try it, jot down any old thing you want to talk to someone about.

That's how I started my little book.

I lost my best friend in that war, a gem of a human being, named Joe.

We agreed to meet after we returned and share our stories.

Joe had just graduated Stanford, his family had wealt and he had a gig in the news business.

He could have used his connections to avoid the draft, not Joe.

He gave it up, took the oath, and so began his Public Information stint as an army 2nd Lieutenant.
He was granted a direct commission for his educational background.
Anyway, we became friends, spent hours planning our lives after we went back home.
Joe never came back, and I did.
We were quite an odd couple, him a California blue blood, me a Texas country boy.

Writing all that stuff I did, day after day, night after night, helped me heal.
It helped me solve many mysteries and answer many questions.

No one but my wife has ever read that book, and no one ever will.
But, the guy that wrote it, it sure helped him get better.

Who knows what something like that might do for you?
There's so much you could do.
You could speak to teachers, police officers, other kids that have been hurt, social workers, therapists, even students.
Its up to you.
You have a voice, and I know you have a message.

You'd be surprised how many people want to hear you.
But, you're your biggest fan, and you want to hear your story, too.
Try it, you just might like it.

 

[Proserpina]

I can't really add anything except that I'm throwing a hug to the OP.

There are good people in this world. And there are very bad people in this world.

OP knows which one she is

 

[Betty3]

OP, don't feel bad doing what you believe you have to do. You sound like a nice/kind person. Hang in there & take care.

 

[army judge]

Its cases like this that make me want to scream.

Once in 2007, she skates.

Then again in 2011, she skates, and finally she gets her unjust desserts, 8 years deferred adjudication (probation).

So, she keeps her nose clean for 8 years, she'll never set one foot in a prison cell, and her record will be as pure as a new snow fall.

http://www.kxxv.com/story/24437292/judge-sentences-former-hallsburg-teacher

 

[Betty3]

Wow, all those charges in 2007 & 2011 being dropped or dismissed!