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My father lived in Turkey and passed away about 6 weeks ago. I live in Germany. My parents separated more than 10 years ago but never divorced. To my knowledge, my father did not leave a will, which means the legal succession laws apply. His estate includes several properties and a bank account that likely contains money. This estate is to be divided among my siblings, my mother, and me. I have two sisters and a brother. My second brother passed away a few years ago and left a 2-year-old daughter who lives with her mother. If I am not mistaken, his claim to the inheritance will be transferred to his daughter.
My older sister is demanding a power of attorney from me and the others to make the inheritance declaration on our behalf in Turkey. When I asked her what would happen if I didn't grant her this authority, she said that the inheritance could not be accepted. She then told me that I would need to travel to Turkey and handle it myself, and if I refused to do so, she would sue me. She knows that I am unable to travel to Turkey and that my Turkish language skills are limited. Therefore, giving her the power of attorney seems to be my only option.
She mentioned that the application must be made to a notary. When I asked which notary she intends to visit, she said she doesn't know yet and will only find out once she is in Turkey. She also threatened again to take me to court if I don't provide her with the power of attorney. This response made me question the situation further. I asked her to find a notary before she goes to Turkey and to inform me of which one she will visit.
My siblings and I do not have a good relationship. My brother and I no longer communicate, and he also does not get along with my older sister. Without exaggeration, my sister is one of the worst people I have ever met. My entire family has warned me about her since my childhood and advised me to stay away from her. As an adult, I can now understand why. We had a falling out about a year ago, and I no longer trust her. That's why I wanted to know which notary she plans to visit so I can send the power of attorney directly to him. This power of attorney will include my address, and I do not want her to have access to it.
When I asked her to find a notary and schedule an appointment before traveling to Turkey, she responded: "Things don't work the same way in Turkey as they do here in Germany. They don't have a busy appointment schedule. You go there and handle things on-site. I can't make an appointment because I don't have contact with a notary. I need to be there to find out which notary I will go to. It's somewhere in Istanbul, and I don't know how many notaries there are. I don't know them. I need to be there to find a notary. I can't do this from Germany. I don't have time for that. I'm studying for my exams, and in two months I will finish my last presentation at university. Two days later, I will fly to Turkey and stay there for about 10-14 days. During that time, I will find a notary. We don't make appointments. Things work differently there than in Germany. I need your power of attorney by then. You have about a week to provide it. If you don't give me the power of attorney within this week, I will involve a lawyer to ensure everything is ready by the time I am in Turkey."
She has now threatened to sue me four times. She mentioned that various documents need to be collected from different places to handle this inheritance matter. It seems like a complicated process, and I feel like she is trying to discourage me from traveling to Turkey and managing it myself.
Of course, it is possible to find a notary before traveling to Turkey. She just doesn't seem interested in doing that. She says she doesn't have time, but she finds time to threaten me with legal action. She has conflicts with many people, including relatives, companies, and landlords because she constantly causes trouble for everyone. I do not want to give her the power of attorney, as it will reveal my address to her, and I am uncomfortable with the idea of granting power to someone like that, even if I restrict her authority.
My second concern is that I might inherit a significant amount of wealth that I may not be able to access. I do not speak Turkish very well and may not be able to travel to Turkey. I will have to deal with many issues related to the properties (taxes, deeds, etc.) that I cannot manage, and I am worried that over time, I will be expected to handle tasks that I am unable to perform. I will not receive support from my siblings or brother.
My older sister is demanding a power of attorney from me and the others to make the inheritance declaration on our behalf in Turkey. When I asked her what would happen if I didn't grant her this authority, she said that the inheritance could not be accepted. She then told me that I would need to travel to Turkey and handle it myself, and if I refused to do so, she would sue me. She knows that I am unable to travel to Turkey and that my Turkish language skills are limited. Therefore, giving her the power of attorney seems to be my only option.
She mentioned that the application must be made to a notary. When I asked which notary she intends to visit, she said she doesn't know yet and will only find out once she is in Turkey. She also threatened again to take me to court if I don't provide her with the power of attorney. This response made me question the situation further. I asked her to find a notary before she goes to Turkey and to inform me of which one she will visit.
My siblings and I do not have a good relationship. My brother and I no longer communicate, and he also does not get along with my older sister. Without exaggeration, my sister is one of the worst people I have ever met. My entire family has warned me about her since my childhood and advised me to stay away from her. As an adult, I can now understand why. We had a falling out about a year ago, and I no longer trust her. That's why I wanted to know which notary she plans to visit so I can send the power of attorney directly to him. This power of attorney will include my address, and I do not want her to have access to it.
When I asked her to find a notary and schedule an appointment before traveling to Turkey, she responded: "Things don't work the same way in Turkey as they do here in Germany. They don't have a busy appointment schedule. You go there and handle things on-site. I can't make an appointment because I don't have contact with a notary. I need to be there to find out which notary I will go to. It's somewhere in Istanbul, and I don't know how many notaries there are. I don't know them. I need to be there to find a notary. I can't do this from Germany. I don't have time for that. I'm studying for my exams, and in two months I will finish my last presentation at university. Two days later, I will fly to Turkey and stay there for about 10-14 days. During that time, I will find a notary. We don't make appointments. Things work differently there than in Germany. I need your power of attorney by then. You have about a week to provide it. If you don't give me the power of attorney within this week, I will involve a lawyer to ensure everything is ready by the time I am in Turkey."
She has now threatened to sue me four times. She mentioned that various documents need to be collected from different places to handle this inheritance matter. It seems like a complicated process, and I feel like she is trying to discourage me from traveling to Turkey and managing it myself.
Of course, it is possible to find a notary before traveling to Turkey. She just doesn't seem interested in doing that. She says she doesn't have time, but she finds time to threaten me with legal action. She has conflicts with many people, including relatives, companies, and landlords because she constantly causes trouble for everyone. I do not want to give her the power of attorney, as it will reveal my address to her, and I am uncomfortable with the idea of granting power to someone like that, even if I restrict her authority.
My second concern is that I might inherit a significant amount of wealth that I may not be able to access. I do not speak Turkish very well and may not be able to travel to Turkey. I will have to deal with many issues related to the properties (taxes, deeds, etc.) that I cannot manage, and I am worried that over time, I will be expected to handle tasks that I am unable to perform. I will not receive support from my siblings or brother.