My daughters father has changed

[hermother1]

I was with my ex for almost 3 years and we split up when I was 3 months pregnant. He did not contact me throughtout my pregnancy. While I was still pregnant one if his friends threatened my life and I had to call the police. After I gave birth he was only a part of our childs life for 3 weeks before he went missing for more than 2 months. The entire time he was missing I was harrassed by his new girlfriend, his aunt, and several of his other friends. I filed for child support and after he received the orders (about 3 weeks ago) he decided he would like to start texting me to ask about his daughter well being. He has only seen her twice in the last 3 weeks and he has not begun to pay child support yet. He has not financially supported her at since she has been born. He now states that he wants to keep her for entire weekends.

He lives with his mother and his mother states she does not want to help with our daughter. He has no family support system and I have proof that he drinks a lot. He was not like this during our relationship together. If we go to court could I ask for supervised visitations? I do not want my daughter with him, his family, and friends over night.

 

[Duranie]

You can ask for supervised visits you might get them but probably not for very long. Seeing the child twice in the last 3 weeks is something ajd it sounds like you do not want him to visit anyways. How old is the child? Nothing you have stated is any reason for supervised visits. If the child is an infant then you have a better chance of getting them but they will not last forever.

 

[hermother1]

Our daughter is 4 months old. I do want him to have visits but I dont trust him, his family, or his friends. The last time he saw her was when I asked him to visit. I asked him to visit this friday and he told me he couldnt because he didnt want to drive his mothers car because of the way it looks. On Christmas day I literally begged him to come see her and he said he was too busy and could not make time (I have text messages to prove that). Also, I know his friends have nothing to do with our custody dispute but some of them have been convicted of crimes. And I'm also concerned about my childs father drinking. I dont want the visits to be supervised forever but I think they should be supervised until his life is a bit more stable. And the fact that he has no problem with having no contact with his daughter for more than 2 months at a time concerns me.

 

[Duranie]

He as a non custodial parent is actually not required to use his visits. The fact you do not like his family or friends has nothing to do with this, they are not legal parties here. Unless you have a visitation agreement through the courts, you are in control anyways.