my boyfriend shoplifted and got away leaving the merchandise on parkinglot when i called to find out what to do they said that they had caught him previousely on video and needed for me to give them his info or turn him in. our car was towed and they said that they had turned the info in to the police. they were not happy when i said that i might as well get a lawyer and threatened me with the police if i didnt give them his info. this was a grocery store in oklahoma city and it was about 50 dollars worth of food. we cant afford to have him in jail is there any other way to rectify it. the store wouldnt work with me
Shoplifting, Larceny, Robbery, Theft shoplifting and caught on video
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army judge
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Yes, you can advise him not to steal. I'd counsel him about stealing $50 worth of food, failing, landing in jail, and losing $500, $1,000, $2,000 of wages, paying $500 in fines, and bringing shame and embarassment on himself, his family, his children, and you. I'd go on to say, that to get our car back is gonna cost another $500 and inconvenience us even more. I'd finish up by telling him how important it is to OBEY all laws, live a life of integrity, and ask how he proposes to solve his problems.
Then I'd take my junk (the kids and pets, if I had any), and tell him I never want to see him again, because I'm not a thief and don't want to be drug down by his stupidity and dishonesty.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life cleaning up his messes? You're not his mother. You didn't steal, why tolerate him stealing?
Sigh, but you won't do any of that. This isn't the first time he got bucked off the bull. So, tell him to keep his big mouth shut (he'll fail at that, too), plead not guilty, ask for a public defender, and try to get your family and friends to raise his bail money. Man, that $50 worth of almost stolen gruel is gonna cost about $2,500 to $5,000 before this gets fixed. He'll probably end up doing 90 days in jail, if he's lucky. Most shoplifters get cited and released. He ran, and made a big deal, a BIGGER deal!
Then I'd take my junk (the kids and pets, if I had any), and tell him I never want to see him again, because I'm not a thief and don't want to be drug down by his stupidity and dishonesty.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life cleaning up his messes? You're not his mother. You didn't steal, why tolerate him stealing?
Sigh, but you won't do any of that. This isn't the first time he got bucked off the bull. So, tell him to keep his big mouth shut (he'll fail at that, too), plead not guilty, ask for a public defender, and try to get your family and friends to raise his bail money. Man, that $50 worth of almost stolen gruel is gonna cost about $2,500 to $5,000 before this gets fixed. He'll probably end up doing 90 days in jail, if he's lucky. Most shoplifters get cited and released. He ran, and made a big deal, a BIGGER deal!
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shrinkmaster
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They clearly know who he is so they will catch up with him. He might as well surrender now and see what deal (if any) available to him. He has made things much worse and now involved you as well. If Police ask you his whereabouts and you refuse you could find yourself in jail as well. Your BF should consult an Attorney and arrange a surrender
mightymoose
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Were you at the store with him when he did this?
Why did you call the store?
How did anyone know that there was a connection between the two of you?
Why was the car towed, and from where was it towed? Who authorized the tow? The store? The police?
From what you describe it seems that you are not in any particular trouble over this. You have no obligation to provide information to the store, the police, or anyone else.
Whether it is for this or for something else I would not be surprised if your boyfriend is arrested before long. Stealing anything is stupid, but stealing food is really stupid. If you are on hard times you can obtain free food from any number of charity organizations.
You should know this is not neccesarily a petty matter. With the information you gave here, and depending on your state statutes, I see the possibility for a felony arrest if he should be caught.
For now, and until there is any police contact, both of you clam up, go on about your lives, and quit breaking the law. If police should come do not make any statements or answer any questions without a lawyer.
Why did you call the store?
How did anyone know that there was a connection between the two of you?
Why was the car towed, and from where was it towed? Who authorized the tow? The store? The police?
From what you describe it seems that you are not in any particular trouble over this. You have no obligation to provide information to the store, the police, or anyone else.
Whether it is for this or for something else I would not be surprised if your boyfriend is arrested before long. Stealing anything is stupid, but stealing food is really stupid. If you are on hard times you can obtain free food from any number of charity organizations.
You should know this is not neccesarily a petty matter. With the information you gave here, and depending on your state statutes, I see the possibility for a felony arrest if he should be caught.
For now, and until there is any police contact, both of you clam up, go on about your lives, and quit breaking the law. If police should come do not make any statements or answer any questions without a lawyer.
shrinkmaster
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If your not the accused how do you know so much about this?
mightymoose
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There should not be a police hold on the vehicle since it has no evidence value to the theft. Storage fees will quickly accumulate... best to get it out as soon as possible.
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